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Sunday, September 25th- For Every Season Turn...Turn..Turn

2011-12-28T19:12:00.000-08:00

It's been a month and a change of season since we last blogged. Instead of gettin' pictures taken and downloaded...the perfect themes outlined at least in my mind...it ain't goin' to happen so "just write" as a variation of the Nike slogan.

Last Sunday, Jason, Lucas and I (Dave) went to the Ukraine Heritage Festival in NE Mpls at the Ukraine Cultural Center. While the Vikes we're getting beat a mile away, we all sampled, for a moment, life in Ukraine, especially Jason. All afternoon there was Ukraine dance, singing and entertainment in the hall and under the tent outside on a cool, drizzly day. Jason loved getting cabbage rolls, perogi's and I the bortsch. Their were games and friends because the Boehrs and Landrys came with their sons Nathan and Kirill.

We also thought of friends who left only a month earlier and some are now in the final throes of adoption because their new parents are in Kyiv to bring their children home. The Andersons bringing home Georgiy and the Reshetars bringing home Sasha. While Jason's friends Adrej and sister Anzehlica are awaiting their new MN family (who connected with the children in the last few days of their hosting stay in MN mid-August). The Kristensens of Duluth are also in Ukraine finalizing their adoption of Tanya and Kolya, The Hills from CT, dear friends we met in March in Kyiv, return after their 10 day waiting period to bring their Natasha home.

There are varying stories and challenges for some families in the process. I've always said to our prayer partners nothing is a done deal 'til Jeanne and Jason are back in MN...izz not OK...izz Ukraine Let's say...each of these families need that diligent prayer to overcome unexpected obstacles or prevent them from occurring. Please pray for them and their families.

The festival was a wonderful reconnection to Ukraine culture as well as with friends.

Fall is here in MN as crops are harvested, leaves are changing, birds are migrating, apples are ripe for pickin', football and school time as well as earlier darkness and cool evenings.

It was 6 weeks ago we said goodbuye to our friend and host son Bob from China. All 3 boys had a wonderful time doing life for his brief 10 days with us. We had gone to the lake a couple times in August plus Labor Day Weekend. Lucas and Jason love the water and beach...swimming, playing, paddleboating, fishing and of course, tubing. LD Weekend you could smell and feel the shift in season in the air. It was great to have Bour and Zuzek cousins there and a bonfires and s'mores at night. We pulled the shore knowing it would be difficult to return with Jason in soccer.

A month ago, we visited Grandpa Tony and Grandma Lorraine at their log home in Yankton (SD) along the Missouri River at Lewis and Clark National Park. It is a damed lake on the river with beautiful, high sandstone sheared bluffs. We all had a great weekend and so enjoyed the time with each other whether BBQ-ing on the deck, boatin' & tubin', playing at the beach and park or the boys "crusin' for chicks" with Grandpa Tony in his 2-seater BMW. Grandpa Tony suggested it one night while taking the boys for a ride in the "cool car" they begged to be in. He then asked the boys, "You know what chicks are, don't you?" And my son knowledgable Lucas said, "Sure Grandpa, they're baby chickens!" Aaaaaaah, right answer, son. With Jason...he was onboard with that answer to....aaaaaah, lost in translation...right answer, son.

The biggest decision Jeanne and I sought the Lord about and received July 21st (our deadline to finish praying and come together on what we heard) was about educating our sons at home. What we both heard from the Lord and then shared with one another was "Yes." So, we notified our sons just before the trip to Yankton. The Lord was really speaking to us about instilling our (Christian) values especially because he had 11 years of someone or some instititutes or country's values established in Jason. We knew we had a precious couple years at best (before him becoming a more independent teen) to instill our values and could ill afford losing 6 hours a day to school (public, private or charter) who would not accurately or diligently instill our values. The decision became real clear and that both boys would be educated at home because one going and the other not didn't make sense.

Jeanne attended a conference conducted by M.A.C.H.E. (MN Assoc'n of Christian Home Educators). What a first-class organization with a ton of high standard educational resources. We also belong to a Christian Co-op KNEEL where up to a 100 children several days a month gather for classes (e.g., science, cultural studies, gym, etc.) and field trips. We've found a new "world" full of awesome, high quality resources. We also received much support including the principal at our local elementary school where we have access to classes (e.g., music, gym, ELL, etc.) if we so desire. The boys embraced home school when they were told and after three weeks, Jeanne is doing an excellent job and the boys are in a good flow. We already see the fruit of home schooling from both a values and an academic perspective.

But what about socializing...really...there's not much in any school or else you get in trouble. There's also only 15 minutes of recess a day at public school. To sooth those concerns of others, no worries...here's wassup:

Still playing with neighbor kids
Still playing with friends Lucas's made from 3 years of school
Jason playing soccer with a great group of boys
Lucas in cub scouts...3rd year with same boys...1st Den Meeting Monday
Jason in J-Hi youth group...this is awesome for establishing his faith in the Lord and he loves it
Jason in 6th grade boys life group...more of above...really begining to make friendships only after 3 times
Lucas in Tae Kwon Do (sp?)
Lucas in GRIME (God Rocks In ME--cool boys ministry Wed nights)...3rd year with same boys
Lucas in Christmas Musical...3rd year and with his buddies
Lucas and Jason becomin' best friends and hangin' out & playing all the time
Family activities with grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins
Friends being made at KNEEL Co-op

I think we're GTG on the socializing and I'm thankful for it all. That's it for our transition from summer to fall...for every season...turn, turn, turn.

Monday, August 22, 2011 fiNaL sLicES oF sUMmEr LiFE

2011-08-22T21:54:00.000-07:00

Ugh! Summer's comin' to an end. It's been a great summer...and still is! We've been heading to the cabin/lake every other week. Bob, our summer exchange student, spent 10 days with us to finish out July. It was a great experience for all of us, especially Lucas, Jason and Bob.

Bob has cool electronics like his I-Pad.

At Vacation Bible Study.

Playin' cut-throat Uno...Lots of laughs.

Bob also taught the boys how to use chop sticks.

Lucas had Summer Stage camp at the Eagan HS Theater followed by Showtime camp which ended in a hour plus long performance. We were proud of him. he did a great job acting, singing and dancing to songs like "Help" and "We are the Champions." All four groups of kids from little to big were great.

Jason tried out for Spring Travel Soccer for the Eagan Wave. Dad and Jason practiced some. He really enjoyed the 2nd night much better after getting over the 1st night try-out jitters. The coach invited him and the other boys to a Saturday morning pick-up game for fun. Jason did very well since he was very relaxed. He also made some friends. He's now started Fall soccer in-house league. Met a friend tonight.

The children from Jason's orphanage came August 10th for 19 days. The Reshetars were happy to see their Sasha who they're adopting and going to Ukraine to do so in September. As well, the Andersons were estatic to see their Georgiy who they'll be adopting as they also journey to Kyiv in September too.

Andrey and Anjelica (siblings) also arrived. They're great kids. URGENT REQUEST HERE...their host family will not be adopting them so with only days left...many of us are trying to have these children meet a potential forever family. Call (Dave's cell: 734-516-6055) if you know of anyone interested.

Andrey and Anjelica...need a chance...need a family.

Last year, several host families didn't adopt but their children went to other families with only days remaining in the hosting program. In each situation, the children have or will be adopted by non-host families. Spread the word ASAP for these two.

Our adoption agency, European Childrens Adoption Services had their annual picnic a few days before the children's arrival. It was a beautiful day. The party's hosts have a beautiful home and property with pool and pool house. ECAS brought in a bouncy house, face painters and balloon sculpturist. The food was great and it was wonderful to see a good size crowd including those we knew in our "Class of 2010" hosting and then adoption. The kids had an awesome time. We haven't seen some since Ukraine like the Moores, Dilners, Landrys. We also saw the Allens who adopted from Russia.

It was also great to see the Boehrs again. They came for 4th of July and we were there a few days earlier than the picnic to celebrate their son Nathan's (Ilya) 11th birthday. That was a good time of pizza, salad, cake 'n' ice cream as well as laughing, talking and birthday celebration.

Next stop...August 12th weekend after Lucas's Showtime performance was to the lake. Great weekend of all things water...swimmin', tubin', pontoonin', and fishin'. We also had great meals and hanging out.

Last weekend, we stayed home. Jason and I got new glasses. Also, PTL for a good report on both boys at the dentist. This is particularly for Jason awesome since dental care in the Ukraine is marginal. We were also glad to hear the two teeth he's losing were baby teeth not permanent ones.

That's the scoop for now. Will try to do better on pictures. We're great on bringing the camera with us buuutttt...no so good at remembering to shoot pictures ;-D LOL

Sunday, July 17, 2011 sLIceS of LiFE 2

2011-07-19T20:48:00.000-07:00

Well...a couple weekends have passed by since our last blog. We are actually minutes away from picking up our Chinese Student, Bob (13 y/o) being dropped off at Woodcrest Church as a part of a Cultural Exchange program for their month long visit in America. He's with us for 10 days...full house with a rich blend of culture...all good.

Two weekends ago, Lucas and I had a Cub Scout Camping Weekend at Camp Akela in Cannon Falls. We went last year and had a blast...ditto this year although I heard "i'm bored" for a couple hours Saturday afternoon before swimming...after a great hour of swimming, we were both GTG again.

Dad and Lucas at BB Gun Range

Our Pack (455) had about 30 parents and kids with our Den of Bears having six. Lucas loves everything water (swimming, canoeing, row boatin') as well as everything camp fire (skits, s'mores, etc.). This was a District run camp. They have volunteer and hired Boy Scouts and Adventure Scouts completely running everything including cafeteria-provided meals, campsite set up, assigned Den Chiefs to our Pack and all really cool activities on a rotation schedule throughout Saturday-Sunday.

We got to go to the barn/farm, nature activity, BB guns, Archery, Swimming twice, earned a whittliing chip and whittled a race car out of a bar of soap, had shop where we learned tools and Lucas made a very nice tool box, canoeing, ballistics (catapaults and slingshotted tennis balls 150 yds plus), campfires, skits by staff and back at the Pack campfire too. How can one get bore? Tired...yes. A little bitten by bugs...yes. Smelly and dirty...for sure...

Rockin' 'n' rollin' in your tent as an early Sunday morning thunderstorm with howling winds came through...oh yeah! Bored, no way, Lucas said, "Dad, I hear other kids cryin." I said I could understand...the storm was BIG. Lucas was a little scared and so was I. I had the tent tied down good, prayed and we just relaxed to ttry to sleep again. We did get a little water. The rain came down so hard with the blowing wind the canvas couldn't repel it quick enough.

On the other side of the family, Jeanne and Jason spent time and even ended up in Cannon Falls Saturday at the brand new coliseum to see cousins Rachael and Alex barrel race...very cool!

During the week, Jason continues to go to summer school and Lucas started a 2 week summer camp at the Egan H.S. called, "Summer Stage." Lucas went to SS last year too. Music, singing, dance and of course, acting alll taught by a quality and experienced group of young people as teachers. They both have checked out the sprinkler park in AV and books/videos at the Rosemount Library. They like the library. They also love biking.

This past weekend we headed to Grandma Jan's cabin...even Sadie. It was a hot 'n' humid one but not too bad at the lake with its breezes and a shaded cabin. Boys immediately went into the water. I walked Sadie but the early evening horse fly population along the road in the woods was too much...we cut it short and had a much better early morning walk.

Uncle Tony was up and so was Cousin Mike and his sweetheart Lindsay...with their new German Lab puppy--Reagan. Jeanne and I took on the job of taking most all the branches from all the trees fallen from the July 4th weeknd storm (F3 tornado) to the street for chippin' by the township. Hard, sweaty work but we're glad to do our share along with the hardworkin' crew (Tony, Joel, Zuzeks, Thoresons) of the 4th weekend. I couldn't imagine what they faced and their hard effort in cutting down trees, cutting them up, stacking and piling branches. The drive from Grantsburg on was amazing as far as all the fallen trees and that's 2 weeks after the storm.

The boys had great time in the water playing and dad even swam "laps" with Lucas, wrestled and threw them both around for a couple hours. Saturday was topped off with tubing in Uncle T's boat and pontooning with mom, Lindsey and Mike, who got the thang started and running well...thank you , Mike!. Mike also taught Jason to use his fly fishin' pole to cast and Jason was excited to catch his 1st fish with a pole (did so before usin' a net). After the after-dinner pontoon ride, he spent the rest of the evening on the dock fishin' while we got the fire on the beach goin'. Kids were toast at bedtime as were Jeanne and I. But we unwound by staying up some more with family.

Sunday we headed home early to go to the Eagan Community Theater's "Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Coat." One of Lucas's teachers from Summer Stage was "Joseph" a 20 y/o kid who had an amazing voice as well as solid acting. Lucas's cousin Jake and friend Katie were also in the choir. A great performance by all and we all enjoyed it.

GTG...our student Bob and 53 other Chinese students arrived late but should be at the church about 10 pm.

Thursday, July 7, 2001_sLICeS of aMEriCAnA or why doesn't this blog write itself

2011-07-07T22:31:00.000-07:00

Well...thee ol' blog machine has certainly slowed since the adoption is now complete. However, life is goin' on... It's been six weeks since Jeanne and Jason have returned. We are blessed to be a family, are bonding as one and in the throes of adjustment as a new family.

We are enjoying life from hide 'n' seek in the backyard, selling toys to make some money, to birthdays & Fathers day to family and holiday gatherings at home and at the lake...sLiCEs of LifE.

Here's an update from Memorial Day Weekend through Independence Day Weekend...here's THE LIST of "slices":

Visiting and BBQ at the St.Louis Park Ritzman's (Dean,, Nan & our nephew Case...also 3 dogs including their newest TV star dog featured on KARE 11-"Puff"). Great hangin' out. Case is high on the COOL scale. Jason continually asks, "when we go see Casey?" Case was awesome playing, skate boarding, BMX-ing and hangin' out with Lucas and Jason.
Visiting and celebrating (on the Bour side...Jeanne's fam) our niece Brianne and her new husband Nathans's marriage to one another at a reception 4 months post-wedding at her parents house. Great weather, food and company. Boys had a great time playing with cousins, uncles and aunts...especially wrestling with cousin Jon and Aunt Cindy's "Art Class" as we called it (for the boys) when she set silver plated plastic silverware on fire...kinda like sparklers...ooh, shiney!
Went to the lake for Fathers day and Lucas's family birthday. Just our family and Uncle Tony. We had a great time in the water, firepit, lawn mowin' and ridin' the waves at 30+ mph with Uncle Tony and Dad takin' turns with the boys. We love the cabin life!!!

Then, Lucas, Jason, 8 other friends and us had a wonderful time partying and celebrating Lucas's Birthday at Farmington Lanes. Everyone of the kids was so edifying of Lucas and encouraging of one another as they bowled, ate pizza and cake, and then, opened gifts. We were so proud of these children at what total joy and freedom they had with both fun and respect. One of the best birthdays. Happy Birthday, Buddy! We love you!

Family (Zuzek-Bour) Annual Golf outing and Party. Thank you Grandma Jan for watching the boys as we golfed. Truly enjoyed the golfing and adult time before the family party. Thanks Johnny Z. for hosting an outstanding family event again. The boys had a great time again with all their cousins and rocket launching in the front yard and trampoline in the back.
Independence Day Weekend was one of the best ever. We received Jason's certificate of U.S. citizenship on that Friday...how appropriate. We stayed in the cities because we wanted him to experience the celebration of his new country's birthday and freedom. Friday, friends (uncle) Bill and (aunt) Pam invited us all for a delicious dinner at their house. Their son Ryan, a Soph at KU, made the boys feel real special as they ate together. As adults, we got quality time and the boys got surround sound premium audio & video on a 92 inch screen for a viewing of "Descipcable Me"...way to go Uncle Bill!!! Saturday, our friends in the adoption process, The Boehrs, came over for a BBQ and fun. They brought their 5 children including Jason's friend, Nathan, adopted from the same orphanage and returned home together on the same flight. Wonderful time! Below, the kids are eating on the sport court.

On Sunday, Jeanne took me to Alexis Bailley Winery for goodies and jazz for my birthday while GREAT Aunt Jackie took the boys to see "Mr. Popper's Penguins." Thank you Sweetie for a great gift of time with you in an awsome setting. As a family, Jeanne and the boys surpised me later with cards and gifts as did our neighbors the Wahowskes. We then all loaded up in the car and headed to Bloomington for fireworks...they were fantastic! Monday (4th)...to the Apple Valley Parade...Fly- over of WWII War Birds, great bands, floats, queens, military presence, clowns, Shriners and only a couple politicians (perfect)...everything that made for an enjoyable 4th of July celebration and then to our neighbors pool for a swim...thanks Mike and Heidi! The boys love all things water...pools, lakes, sprinklers, sprinkler parks in AV as well as MN Zoo and Cascade Bay WaterPark.

That's, for the most part, all caught up. Boys are biking a lot. Jason loves summer school which is helping him further immerse in language and culture. Our church rocks! Twins have a shot. And summer weather is finally here.

We have more to blog...hopefully in a sooner timeframe than last.

June 19, 2011 Prayer for Jason's Friends

2011-06-19T20:43:00.000-07:00

From the U.S. Embassy in Ukraine: June 15, 2011, alert: Ukrainian Family Code Amendments and temporary suspension on adoptions to take effect on July 11, 2011

The Ukrainian State Department on Adoptions (SDA) informed the US Embassy this morning that beginning July 11 SDA will no longer have the authority to process adoption cases. This will likely result in a temporary suspension of adoptions from Ukraine. The Ministry of Social Policy will take over as the new adoption authority in Ukraine, but does not yet have Cabinet approval to create a staff and begin processing cases. The Ministry does not yet know when they will be able to resume adoption processing. The amendments to the Ukrainian Family Code mentioned in the previous adoption alert will also go into effect on July 11.

We will ask the Ukrainian government to resume adoptions as quickly as possible. We will also continue to encourage the Ministry of Social Policy to protect adoptions where U.S. prospective
adoptive parents have already been approved by the SDA to adopt a particular child.

If you are so inclined please pray. This immediately effects 3 children in Jason's orphanage and already in the process of adoption, plus at least 4 in other orphanages already intended for adoption - all by MN families. In addition, 7 more children were to be hosted this summer.

Every child needs to be adopted.

Luke 1:37 For with God nothing will be impossible.

Friday, June 10, 2011

2011-06-10T22:12:00.000-07:00

Ten days since we last blogged. School was out Thursday. Visit to Ritzmans-St. Louis Park last weekend...we'll highlight in a family edition blog with highlights of tomorrow's wedding reception on Jeanne's side of the family. The past two weeks both boys had track 'n' field day, talent shows and other school ending events. Lots of bike riding and some skate boarding too. They both loved school.
Now summer...ahhh! A transition in a transition...whoo-hoo!

All good...just like going to Cafe Raisa's tonight with cousin Rachael who's staying the night with us. For two days Jason says, "Ded, we go to Russian cafe...pleeeeease?" I say let me talk to mom (thinkin' why not). So, on a lunch time walk with the dog, our neighbor Julie Bergom gives us a beautiful card from her, her husband Jeff and family. They really encouraged and blessed us. And...inside was a gift card from...Cafe Raisa!!!

We took Jason last summer and last winter and the food is good and the service is excellent. We were greeted by a young woman as American as can be...and Jason starts speaking to her in Russian. She was blown away and took interest in our family right away. She is Victoria aka Tori. Her parents are Russian and she came here when she was 5 y/o...now going off to college next year. A great server helping all of us through the menu.

We learned that her mom heads a language school for children wanting to learn Russian at Apple Valley Baptist Church. And then learn her father is Pastor of a Russian congregation...and they have a summer camp. Very cool! It's so nice to have this support so close to home.

Another photo of the boys, Tori and the owner Raisa.

The meals come and we all ate well...even Jeanne and her non-Russian meal...a Reuben...however, I believe it does have Russian dressing. Jason had a huge bowl of Bortsch which we all sampled...very good and 2 huge cabbage rolls. He ate a lot but we did bring a roll home as did Rachael and Lucas bring home some of there dumplings. Jeanne and I took no prisoners...sorry Sadie...not that you get any people food anyways.

We all came home (full) and the boys biked and skateboarded in the rain for awhile before coming in for snack and bed. "Great day in the 'hood!"

Monday, May 30, 2011- A Boundaries and Waters Weekend!

2011-05-30T21:25:00.000-07:00

It was Jason's first full weekend together as a family over Memorial Day Weekend. First, thank you all who have directly served in our branches of the military or have family members who have or are serving our country in this way.

Our Blog Post title may give the impression we canoed and camped this weekend...well, we didn't. The title really reflects, in part, boundaries in the sense of helping Jason to establish new and healthy ones in our family. Not that he didn't have healthy ones before but they were totally different because he lived in an orphanage and without a family. He lived according to orphanage rules and expectations as well as using his own innate abilities to survive emotionally and mentally.

He now lives with a family who'll be his family forever...he's in that uphill climb of trusting that we won't abandon him no matter what. It's legal and now and becoming real for Jason as well as us collectively as family. After a successful and much enjoyed week of school, this weekend we continued communicating and establishing boundaries in the smallest of ways as to convey to Jason he's safe, loved and belongs.

The other part or theme of the weekend, on a lighter note, was "water."

Along with the picture above, Lucas and Jason really enjoyed the rain after school Friday. It was a blessing to let them fully clothed go run and play in the rain and no holding back. They laughed and enjoyed each other and the freedom to get completely soaked...with parents smiling the entire time.

Saturday morning we all headed up north to the cabin to spend the day with Grandma Jan as well as some aunts, uncles and cousins. The boys helped a bit in picking up sticks while older cousins and adults did leaves and put the dock and pontoon in. Beautiful day of sun and 70 degree weather. The water was a little cool but no worries...Jason and Lucas were swimming, fishing with cousin Alex and paddle boating,

They also rode bikes and generally hung out in the water most of the day with the exception of a couple great meals.

Monday was Water Park of America...more water! Yay!! the day looked gloomy at first with a threat of rain. Since Jeanne and Jason never made the hydropark in Kyiv, so why not here. What a great time! Everyone's first time in fact. From slides, lazy rivers, body tubes and kickboard "surfing" as well as general water park fun. A good way to spend the day...bonding and creating further attachment, a critical need for adopted orphan children. We are blessed of the Lord for His wisdom and resources. We were blessed also to have a weekend of great attachment opportunities with "boundaries and waters."

Thursday, May 26, 2011: Navigating through Transition

2011-05-26T19:55:00.000-07:00

Hoping there is always such enthusiasm for school! Getting dressed, fed and out the door (way earlier than necessary) with no prodding from Mom........that's when we say "right here, right now, enjoy this moment"!

There is always temptation, or maybe it's hope, to wish a honeymoon period would last forever. Reality usually says, that's just not possible. The best thing to do, then, is enjoy the honeymoon as long as possible. The tranisition for all of us - and those around us - is in full swing. Everyone is getting used to the real and the new.

As parents, we have been educated and trained to be watchful (as in observant), prayerful (as in our own D.E.A.P.* strategy) and thoughtful (as in 'stop and think'). New groups and teams go through four stages of development: the forming stage, the storming stage, the norming stage, the performing stage. These phases are crucial for successful teams and we believe successful families. In our newly joined (or formed) family, we guess that we won't see the new normal (or norming stage) for about six months - maybe longer.

Of course, the one most effected by the tranisition is Jason. The most vocal is Lucas. The most attentive is Jeanne. The most sturdy is Dave.

The one that has the most the gain also had to lose the most. Jason left his homeland, is changing his language, adapting to new classmates, adjusting to new culture, adopting to new rules and expectations and discovering a family kind of love.

During this honeymoon period, we are both enjoying the new dimension in our family experience as well as listening, observing and praying. Based our research of numerous resources, we've been preparing since last year for this time in our family. We know that the skills and strategies can be and even need to be very different for parenting a child from birth than parenting an orphaned child. The goals are the same but the methods for getting there are different. We have to adjust our parenting to best meet the needs of the child. We prepare for the worst and pray for the best!

In some cases, others may be critical of our parenting approach or even reject our decisions. Ones that supported us before may now be unsupportive. We may even not look like we know what we're doing!

While we enjoy the remaining time of the honeymoon period, we also celebrate. The journey has been outstanding in so many ways. We bless the people that made it happen - especially those that prayed. We exalt the Lord that saw fit to give us His dream.

*D.E.A.P. Drop Everthing And Pray.

Saturday, May 21, 2011...The Eagle has Landed!

2011-05-23T20:51:00.000-07:00

Brotherly love...the real thing!

Oh happy day...oh happy day ah ay...when Jesus walked...yeah when He walk-a-alked...He took my cares away. That song was in my spirit again all day Saturday. Praise the Lord...Jeanne and Jason arrived a little early Saturday at 6:16 pm at MSP after a 24 hour door-to-door trip...whew!

It was a happy, joyous and much anticipated reuniting of the Ritzman family--the Ukraine side and the U.S. side...and the two shall become one! There was a lot of hugs, kisses and tears of incredible joy along with exchanges of gifts. Check out Lucas's fedora given to him by Jason.

It was really a gift from God for the Boehrs and the Ritzmans to share the last leg of the adoption journey, travel the same flights back together and that the boys--Jason and Nathan were close friends in the orphanage and are now close friends as U.S. citizens in the Twin Cities. I believe the families will get closer too. God is good!

Jason was greeted by every immediate family member via a hanging decorative banner with colorful balloons attached (thanks for helping Uncle Joel!). Every grandparent, aunt, uncle and 14 cousins + Sadie (his dog) from the Twin Cities to Sioux Falls to Mississippi to Seoul, Korea expressed their heart-felt love and warm welcome to the family.

More decorations...cards...flowers inside and oh yeah...chocolate cake!!!

...and a huge chocolate chip cookie...nice! Thanks Aunt Julie!

...and this is what it's all about...brothers playing with Lucas's gift from Jason...Bionicles...they picked up immediately where they left off three weeks ago. We now transition to new life as a family forever.

Praise God for all He's done and all He will do!

Friday, May 20, 2011

2011-05-20T21:14:00.000-07:00

At this writing (10:07 PM...6:07 AM Sat-Kyiv), Jeanne and Jason as well as Bruce Boehrs and Nathan are one hour in their flight (arriving Sat, 6:29 @ MSP). Jeanne should be writing this but a full Friday and a need to pack and sleep by 9:00 only to awake at 2:30 am to get ready and have Sergei drive to KBP airport at 3:00 AM to be 2 hours early for a 5:30 AM flight understandably put a damper on the blog writing. I'll do my best based on the brief Skype recap of the day and what I know from experience. Jeanne can detail later.

If I got it right...Jeanne said, "there was incredible joy in a place of mourning," as describing their last day in Kyiv (at least for a good while). Saying goodbye to close friends or family you won't see'til the next holiday or vacation has brought my nieces and nephews to tears over the years and yet they were esctatic to be with one another for awhile and anticipating the next time.

I can't imagine the feelings Jeanne and especially, Jason (Sasha) felt looking forward to the next chapter in life with great joy yet saying goodbye to friends, children and staff at the orphanage whose hearts are knitted with ours over the past couple months and years for Sasha. Fortunately, his closest friend Ilya, now Nathan, and his father Bruce are on the same flights returning home and friendship continues in a new land with their forever families.

It was a day of "lasts" that brought a dichotomy of joy and mourning in the very same experience for Jeanne and Sasha...Last walk to and from Maidan, last subway ride, last bus ride, last visit to school, last visit to orphange, last conversations, last laughs, last tears shared, etc.

Children gathered, children set alone, children celebrated, children cried, children hoped.
It was an awesome day according to Jeanne...just one full of joy and mourning experienced within each child and adult in the same celebration and goodbye.

Sergei drove Jeanne and Bruce to the "big" market where four traditional Kyiv cakes the children love and chocolate eauclairs were purchased for the party. The women at the orphanage kitchen prepared everything and chai with love and care as they always do. Tables were set for everyone...children, staff, teachers, counselors and five MN families (Ritzmans, Boehrs, Moores, Dilners and Landrys).

It was a party...a celebration and a mourning of relationships changing all at the same time. Everyone talked and laughed and embraced. Nathan, coming home with Sasha and not extroverted by nature, stood up at one point saying, I hope all the kids here find famillies. Amen, we pray they all do for they are good children.

Below are few pictures from the awesome day and celebration at the Children of Cradles Hope Orphanage.

Girl on left (Natasha) and girl on right (Anjelica) both need a forever family.

Boy along wall in red (Andrej) and boy on left sitting in Blue & White (Shani) both need a family.

Spending 5 weeks and Jeanne even longer with the children mentioned, I know these children and know they would not only be hugely blessed to find a forever family but they would be a blessing to that family. Let God speak to your heart.

Tommorrow, we welcome Jeanne and Jason Shasha Ritzman home! Lucas and I are excited!

Thursday, May 19th, 2011

2011-05-19T18:46:00.000-07:00

Every morning as the sun rises gently in the sky and the cool Spring breeze welcomes a new day; a query from a young man floats from the recesses of a quiet apartment somewhere in Kiev:
"Mom, what day we go America?"

This morning the mother of the boy was genuinely pleased to say: "The day after tomorrow."

This afternoon the second appointment at the U.S Embassy produced the Visa! It was a glorious time. The staff declared the documents to be in order. The interview lasted about 3 minutes. The Visa computer worked (a 24 hour wait if it had not) and all toll we were there about an hour.

We got to go with the Boehrs' and we played Uno (according to orphanage rules) while we sat in the waiting room between the interview processing. Mom dutifully lost both games of Uno much to the joy and jousting of Jason and Nathan.

When the visa was presented in his passport he hooted and hollered!

The other continuous question is: "When we go to orphanage?" The good-byes at Children's Cradle of Hope are scheduled for tomorrow. And the transition continues.

The newest legalized immigrants to the U.S.

It was our final appointment in the process of adopting Jason Sasha Ritzman. We celebrated at a cafe with sweets and tea before catching the trolley for home.

Wednesday, May 18, 2011

2011-05-18T21:24:00.000-07:00

Had big plans to start this blog with a picture of the U.S. Embassy Consulate for Foreign Affairs Office (because that is where we started the day) but security stepped in and stopped us. We had 2 pics on the camera already but Jason obediently deleted the photos when security hollered at us.

Even with (or maybe because of) the strict and stern security inside and outside the building - the feeling of being in American territory was overwhelming. Safe, protected, welcome. The first appointment where an interpreter or interpretation was not required.

The U.S. State Department in Ukraine requires two appointments in order to issue an immigrant visa to an adopted children. This first appointment accomplished two things: 1) Examined the portolio to ensure that every necessary document was translated, copied and prepared. 2) Received payment for services being rendered. The staff was very helpful in getting us prepared for tomorrow's appointment (the long one with an interview) as they guided on how to fill out certain applications, which documents to get copied and which don't need to come back.

The afternoon was taken with the medical exam necessary for tomorrow's appointment. Both Jason and Nathan had individual examinations with the U.S. State Department approved Dr. Uriy. The process took most of the afternoon by the time we took the subway to meet Sergei, drove to the clinic and went through the process from room to room. On the way home, Sergei found a place for us to make copies mentioned earlier.

Big day. Big accomplishments. Another step closer to home. Thank you, Lord.

Psalm 130:5- I wait for the Lord, my soul waits, and in His word I do hope.

Tuesday, May 17, 2011

2011-05-17T19:02:00.000-07:00

The Day of Tours:

Skype Tour
Deli Tour
Kiev Tour
Tour of Duty

Skype Tour. A daily highlight for the family bonding is for the Ukraine Ritzmans is to get to skype with the U.S. Ritzmans each day at 4:00p Kiev time (8:00a Central). We look forward to the big Skype. Today, Lucas gave Jason a tour of the house while dad 'drove' the laptop from room to room. Jason kept saying "Where my room?" and when he saw it he was pretty thrilled it had been painted from white to khaki - thank your Grandma Jan!!

Deli Tour. Our first visit to the Ukrainian deli was hosted by Bruce and we all liked the real Ukrainian food and atmosphere. Jason and Nathan were in food heaven sampling the traditional dishes.

Kiev Tour. Since Paul and Karla experienced the city with a tour guide over the weekend, they took us to some sights we have seen and sights we haven't seen and gave us insight on both. We got a lot of walking in and the boys played photographers the whole way.

Tour of duty. We got what we have been waiting & praying for; and need for the U.S. Embassy tomorrow:

And, inside, the stamp that was labored for on Friday last.

The one that proudly showed the gem to his new brother over skype today.

Thank you, God!

Monday, May 16, 2011

2011-05-16T20:18:00.000-07:00

The place of transition has begun. The air is so thick it's uncomfortable!

Jason seems to be expressing the internal conflict of his transition in two ways:

1) Asks the same questions over about what his life in America will be like.

2) Wants to visit and say good-bye to every person he has known in Kiev.

The irrestible pull of the future and the anchor-like tug of the past.

Being around someone going through this kind of life change perspective has deepened and as well as heightened my parental awareness of the turmoil he may be experiencing. It's unsettling to imagine the amount of trust it must take. Of course, it's exciting to think about the new life because it's been lived with "small tastes" of Americana on two previous visits to the U.S. So, he has a touchpoint of sorts to connect with regarding his expectations.

And, at the same time, it must also be frightening. With nothing but a shoe box of treasures and memories, everything else will be new, different or strange. Where will you run if you need to? Who will help if you need it? Right here everyone speaks your language (but one), soon no one but you will speak it. How will you be understood when you want or need something?

It may be like a prisoner after many years of institutionalization soon to be released into full freedom of life. The fear of the new and uncomfortable. The "what I know" is more comfortable than the "what I don't know."
Like the place of transition when the baby is about to birthed - everything goes into a whole different place (for the whole family) - the exictement is heightened, the anticipation and dreams increase, the warfare and pain mazimize all the while pushing into the new thing.

AH! The tranisition must occur, will occur and is occurring - how long will it last? No one ever knows! All we know is that it's worth it because it is God's plan.

Lord, we know that this adoption is part of your great big plan. We know that you love Jason so much that you would rescue him and guide him to exactly where you have today. Your word says: For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11

Sunday, May 15 (MN Edition)

2011-05-15T21:53:00.000-07:00

A wheel came off the mower...but "all four are (still) on the bus, baby." I'll start with the end of the weekend first and explain the quasi-metaphor as well re-capping the EaganRitzman (as opposed to those Ukrainian Ritzmans) weekend...a.k.a. Dave and Lucas.

In an earlier post (Mothers Day), I said we were in a groove...that is,keeping the wheels on the bus ...and rollin'. I reminded myself of this and thanked God for His grace and provsion to keep the wheels on the bus after the wheel on my lawn mower broke 10 minutes into cutting the backyard for the first time this season.

Unbeknownst to my neighbor, I call their house but spoke to a neighbor girl babysitting. I borrowed his lawn mower (I owe you one , Mike)...you see, after a long weekend of Scout camping, Lucas's friend Jagger and his father Jack brought him back to their house to play...I had 90 minutes to cut a lawn I desparately wanted to cut all week but couldn't due to weather or no time...this was my opportunity...so, I clandestinely "borrowed" the neighbors lawn mower. It may seem strange but then, as I cut the lawn, I began to think about all I'm thankful to God for this past week. I'm thankful to Him for:

being another week closer to reuniting with my wife and both sons (together) after 3 weeks
progress in Ukraine, albeit draining for Jeanne and Jason on Friday, to keep us on track
Jeanne and Jason having friends nearby in Kyiv (Boehrs, Moores, etc.) and to enjoy the city and final days
an excellent Adoption Team in Kyiv (Igor, Viktor, etc.) as well as our agency in MN- ECAS
family and friends who stand by us in prayer as well as offer their support in tangible ways, although I don't always take you up on it...I greatly appreciate knowing you care
Wahoskes for having us over for a "mamma meal" (as Lucas put it) Tuesday and then, inviting us to see their daughter's dance recital Friday
Zuzeks for the use of camping gear and having Jake over last Saturday to play with Lucas
Pintz's for watching our beloved pooch-Sadie as Lucas and I do scout camp...and the mower
Thompsons for having Lucas over to play with Jagger and then, have me by later for a pizza dinner
continued business and new opportunities after being gone 5 weeks in Kyiv and out of the sales cycle
Lucas's resilience to all the change in 2 months, especially without momma, that most adults don't even fare well at, yet he's only 7 years old...he's done well in every aspect of his life...I'm proud of him...thank you God
a reprieve in the rain early Saturday morning to get the tent up before the next rain...a great Scout Camp in spite of weather with boys and parents making the best of it and making it the best for their boys...a lot of excellence in leadership and service as well as fun time
the privilege and responsibility to conduct Sunday worship at Scout camp
and again, six days 'til our family reunion and the next chapter of life we'll enjoy with many of you

Here are some highlights from Scout Camp at Kiwanas Boy Scout Camp in Marine-on-the-St. Croix on fishing opener weekend. Hoo-ah Den 7 Bears! Hoo-ah Pack 455!

Activities: Kick Ball, BB Guns, Archery, Fishing, Leather work, Whittling, Camp Fire, Skits, Great food

St Croix River was very high and beautiful as you look across to Wisconsin. It was probably too cold for our friends the ticks.

Lucas just became a Bear Scout...here are some Bears helping to serve at dinner.

We were mostly outside with steady light rain (9-5) and a healthy, constant breeze which made the high of 45 degrees feel much colder. We still enjoyed the activites and we're glad to have a main lodge for refuge. Bear Cub is the first time you can earn a Whittling Chip...your right to carry a pocket knife and whittle. You can lose it too without properly following safety rules and have to re-earn it. 8 year old, excited boys with knives...Mom, you gotta love it!

After passing the instruction by Cubmaster Ron, each boy earns their whittling chip (an "official card" with rules) and every violation results in a corner of the card cut off. Four corners means a "do-over" in your training. With no time to waste, Lucas grabs the nearest stick and...look mom, no blood!

Why whittle alone when you can be with a friend...Lucas and Sean whittling...I can see these guys as old men in their rockers on the porch...whittling...check out the Coke

After a rather warm (inside the sleeping bag and tent) night of sleeping, we had a beautiful day, Sunday...sunny, 60s, light breeze. Thank you, God.

The worship service message was based on 2 Samuel 22:2, The Lord is my rock, my fortress and deliverer and Psalm 28:7. I had some older scouts read, lots of inter-change with the group asking for examples in life where God was a helper, a healer, a deliverer, etc. We also had unplanned guests...a group of about 20 developmentally disabled adults camping elsewhere, walked in, sat down and participated too. Very cool! Everyone gave testimony on God's goodness in their lives for how He provided, He healed, He saved, etc. I ended by praying over the group for God's help in their needs.

Some awards earned as well as other Scouts as well as Lucas's leather work.

Praise God for an awesome week and weekend!

Saturday, May 14

2011-05-14T13:41:00.000-07:00

With a day off from documents chasing what is a parent to do? In Kiev there are many choices! This was today's:

The sign begs the question: Does the name imply 'reverie' for kids or for grown ups?

For starters, the first two levels are filled with store after fabulous store interspersed with coffee and tea shops, cafes and restaurants and, I almost forgot (this is Kiev) bars.

But then there's the top or third level starting with a roller blade rink - where Jason with friend Nathan roller bladed for the first time.

And the ice skating rink where Jason and Nathan ice skated for the first time. (And enjoyed it - once the parents realized a lesson on tying skates was in order!)

What indoor amusement park is complete without jumping domes?

(Okay, other than the MOA.)

For the more adventurous - bungee jumping.

It was easy to tell they enjoyed the ride simulator - we could here every shriek, giggle and exclamation while they were locked inside. This machine rolled and tumbled in mid-air.

Don't have room for the videos of bumper cars!

Plus we didn't have time to partake in: bowling, the arcades and the climbing arena!

The question as concluded from the top of the blog: the name "Dream Town" implies reverie for both kids and grownups - and not because there is wealth of entertainment - but just because an afternoon of complete fun is like a dream coming true......

Friday, May 13, 2011

2011-05-13T13:16:00.000-07:00

Another day, another 2 documents!

It is very easy (for me anyway) to underestimate the length of time it takes to get business done in Kiev. Driving time (on a Friday) can be daunting as people take their cars they haven't driven all week and drive to the Black Sea or the mountains and other places of respite.

On top of transportation challenges, things can change governmentally. That makes it hard (even for the best coordinator and lawyer) to keep up with which office or agency handles what procedure. Not to mention their office hours and lunch break time.

In order for Jason to obtain a new Ukrainian passport his residency at the district and regional records offices had to be relinquished. This process requires finding the correct office locations (not an easy task -most departments are tucked away in obscure buildings on ambiguous streets). Once inside a worker's office sitting is mandatory and if there are not enough chairs the participants they will not begin business until there are. Sitting may sound pleasant but days like today can hav to much. Plus the chairs are rather utilitarian and therefore not very comfortable!

Today, we had two workers at two different offices whose curiosity had us answering a lot of questions. They expressed fascination in Jason being adopted by Americans. They wanted to know things like - why Ukraine and why adoption. They were also curious if adoption was something he wanted especially since, as they noted, it means learning English.

Igor (and later Viktor) worked their tails off from 10:30 - 5:30 today - part of the time on Jason's behalf and part of the time on behalf of adoptee friend Nathan. Since both boys lived in different regions and districts before the orphanage this meant double the process, double the driving, double the fun.

Lots of prayer went out today! Glory to God his answers sustain us. The documents needed to issue the passport are in ready for delivery. With the passport in hand the exit medical exam can take place. These culminate the requirements for the U.S. Embassy appointment where Jason's visa to the

America

is issued.

We have been assured we are on track (document-wise) to keep the departure flight plan of Saturday, May 21st.

Matt 18:19 "Again I say to you that if two of you agree on earth concerning anything that they ask, it will be done for them by My Father in heaven.”

Thursday, May 12, 2011

2011-05-12T09:14:00.000-07:00

Not sure if we crossed off 2 items on the Documents Needed to Exit list or just one today. I am claiming 2.

In the morning we went to an office where Jason's (and Nathan - also there with his dad) image was scanned into a computer so that his new Ukrainian passport can be processed. This appointment is the most excited I have seen Igor (think Ukrainian-expression of excitement) and it was because of this new hi-tech scanning process. Since he has helped dozens with International adoption he would know the latest and greatest. If the process equates to faster passports that would make any coordinator happy!

Personally, I was impressed with how this office was decorated. The building itself was old and crumbly like most of the buildings in Kiev. But the actual office room was big and bright and very tidy. The 3 desks and furniture were a Scandinavian design - streamlined, modern and functional. Of course the cameras and equipment looked brand new but this office was too.

The other document we obtained was generated at the same place generated - a piece of paper with words, a notary stamp and a code. We have been waiting for some kind of 'code' as in a 'tax ID' number. I thought I understood it was the document with the code. (The challenge with the language barrier is that when I ask questions to get clarity I usually get more confused than if I didn't ask at all.)

We met at the orphanage before going to the appointment. Today we noticed new playground equipment ready to built and later played with. Doesn't look like much here but it's impressive in person:

Jason and Nathan enjoyed some ice cream and screen time together today. They speak Russian the entire time they are together - it must be a welcome release when they get together since moving to the apartment means learning time, computer games and movies are all English.

Jason misses Lucas. He asks about him and calls him "my bradda" and wants to know what we can buy for Lucas. He talks about things they did together last year and what they will do when he gets to America. Home sweet home.

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For the sake of this chronicle; a recap of documents since arriving in Kiev on May 1st:
Receipt of Court Decree, Jason's release from the orphanage.
Regional office document for release.
Issuing of new birth certificate.
Passport process - notary office phase.
Orphanage medical history file.
Passport process - hardware store photo phase.
Passport process - scanned photo phase at government office.
Issuing of ID code at same office.

Tuesday, May 10, 2011 (Happenings in Minnesota)

2011-05-10T20:47:00.000-07:00

We are so blessed to be a part of COCH Orphanage's 100th adoption with Jason Sasha Ritzman. It's an honor and to God be all the glory.

The Ritzman's here in Minnesota, specifically Lucas, had a graduation from Wolf cub to Bear cub at our Pack 455 Meeting last night. Our Den 7 graduated 7 scouts (4 in attendance). With only 1/2 the gang there, we managed to win the Best Den Cheer Award...pretty happy group...

Lucas also got to serve in the color guard with other Wolf (soon to be Bear) cubs...

He also was the 1st in the Pack this year to earn the World Conservation Award (cute panda on badge)...

Finally, with parent and his Den Leader, he graduates and receives his new blue Bear neckerchief & slide...

We really miss mom and Jason (Sasha). We've found our groove as have Jeanne and Jason. The Lord has given each of us on both sides of the ocean His peace, protection and connection to Him and one another. This time together is, in alot of ways, a special and lasting memory between a mother and child in the child's home country and a father and child in the child's home country...a special bond that is at the same time evolving into a forever-lasting and amazing bond as a family of four. We look forward to the physical reunion as well.

On the way out from the Pack Meeting, I said, "Buddy, let's go see your art hanging in the hallway. We didn't get to do that together last week at Spring Arts Night." So we held hands and walked down the school hallway to his wonderful and colorful picture of "Bear face."

Tuesday May 10, 2011 (100th Child Adopted)

2011-05-10T13:50:00.000-07:00

                                 Announcing a milestone at
         Cradle of Children's Hope Orphanage

                The 100th Child adopted is:

Jason Sasha Ritzman

There was a lot of excitement when Igor, Tatiana and Natasha delivered the news. We rejoice with them and for all of the lives this number represents: the amazing children and the inspiring families that adopted them.

May 9, 2011

2011-05-09T13:54:00.000-07:00

Back to the 'hood' for Jason.

Between not enough Ukrainian/Russian spoken in the apartment and the fact that 2 doesn't make a crowd (at least when you're used to an orphanage-type crowd) it seemed like a good idea to visit to the orphanage. The first visiting since Emancipation Day last Wednesday.

We took advantage of the Victory Day (for WWII) holiday and visited the kids yesterday and today.

Today we went with the Boehr's and on the way back we landed in Independence Square to catch some of Victory Day.

At first I thought this was the old guard doing security detail.....

It became apparent this was part of the celebration's photo opportunity:

We all are impressed that Independence Square in Maiden is utilized every weekend for some kind of gathering, competition or celebration. This stage has been up and used since we arrived March 16. Today the traditional dances, songs and celebrations took front and center.

Huge crowds on a gorgeous day proud of their contribution to winning the war.

Sunday, May 8, 2011 (Mother's Day)

2011-05-07T21:16:00.000-07:00

The most frequent question I'm asked over the past week is, "How are you and Lucas doing?" There are several ways I could answer from the obligatory "good" to a thoughtful and TMI response that causes the listener to glaze over. But every time, from my heart I say, "I always appreciated Jeanne but I now appreciate her so much more."

As a man, stereotypically speaking, I'm not expected to multi-task. And in business I do a fair job of it and at home I never thought much about it...'til this week. Whoa! There's, of course, just getting me ready...then, the dog, then Lucas (not necessarily in that order depending on the day). There's household duties, school and homework activities, scouts, church, life group, and other activities, volunteer responsibilities, communicating with my wife and son in another country and time zone as well as communication/play with my son here and a business to run. Don't get me wrong...I'm not whining or wallowing in self-pity...in fact, far from it...I'm enjoying the challenge and grateful that my wife loves and trusts me to handle it. I'm also very humbled by it and amazed by her who does this day in and day out quite naturally. I am also grateful that she's in Ukraine taking care of business and our son Jason. And all my gratefulness is to the Lord.

In fact, I truly appreciate Jeanne more than I ever had. I don't know if I took her for granted...I sure I do...I also think I just don't truly realize what it takes spiritually, emotionally and physically to do it all. And she does. I hope my empathy will go to a new level and I'll be an even better dad and husband when we're all together again.

More than that, Jeanne is the Best Mom in the World for Lucas and Jason! And you know what, these boys know it. I knew Jeanne would be a great mom soon after we first met. She is a Proverbs 31 woman (read it) and God has blessed me with a wonderful best friend and lover as well as mom to our boys. One here who really misses her. During a heart-to-heart at bedtime, Lucas says he misses being told by mom that she loves him, laughing, playing games, making cookies and snuggle. Jason is discovering too what a great mom Jeanne is in this special and short time they have together in Kyiv.

She provides them love, guidance, encouragement and support...all a mother could be.

What a difference a week can make since we said goodbye at the airport.

How I thank God for you...2 Timothy 1:3 (TLB). We miss you and love you, Sweetie.

Have a blessed and happy Mothers Day!

Saturday, May 7, 2011

2011-05-07T14:04:00.000-07:00

Enjoying every day............celebrating the productive ones!

Appointment #1 Update and issue of Jason's birth certificate
Appointment #2 Application of Jason's new passport
Jason's first playdate post emancipation
Accessing a supermarket (equally nice: no driver needed)
UNO

Appointments #1 and #2. Both appointments were complete and successful while traveling to two separate offices by noon today. These documents are part of the several needed to legally remove Jason from Ukraine to the U.S. We still need appointments for other documents such as a new government number, a post-adoption/pre-travel medical exam and U.S. State department filings with the U.S. Embassy (a 2-day appointment process).

Ukraine has a National holiday on Monday - Victory Day - as in WWII. The process could go quicker, possibly, without this coming and last week's holidays. As we drove to the first appointment we saw huge floats being moved to a parade route. - should be fascinating to witness another country's perspective of the war.

First Playdate. A boy from Jason's orphanage and his adoptive dad are staying across the street while they do the same appointment/document circuit. Over notary signings today we decided on a playdate. Ilya's(now Nathan's) new family is wonderful as God has blessed him with a mom, dad and 4 siblings right in Blaine, MN. The two boys were good buds at Cradle of Children's Hope and today they talked non-stop Ukrainian with lots of giggling (yes, giggling) the hour or so they were at our apartment and, I am sure, the other hour at the Boehr's dwelling. It must have felt great to speak their native tongue basically uninterrupted.

Jason and Nathan back in their orphanage days.

Accessing a supermarket. The giggling continued on the subway. We navigated Heath Ewing's recommendation for the international adoptive parent's dream: a large market with easy access to the subway and no need for a bus or any other kind of driver. We had grown accustomed to shopping the Mi-size market by the orphanage and enjoyed the convenience. That's not a viable option when visiting the orphanage is no longer part of the daily routine. The smaller markets around the apartment easily run out of things like bread and butter plus they charge more for the same products. Truly, the market at Lybids'ka is a great resource.

UNO. When Jason was getting ready to move out of the orphanage he showed us his keepsake box: a Target shoe box filled with his only worldly treasures. A gift from a relative, a photo album of us and orphanage friends, a soccer medal and a journal of his drawings, soccer player cards and other memorabilia. One of the journal pages has 3 UNO playing cards pasted on. Don't know whose game is missing those cards! UNO was the game tonight on Mother's Day Eve: Jason: 5 Mom: 4.

Friday, May 6, 2011

2011-05-06T13:20:00.000-07:00

Some photos of the apartment for archiving's sake:

The kitchen - love the windows!! (Oven -nonworking, washing machine, refrigerator - huge and new, sans microwave, toaster and dishwasher.)

Speaking of kitchen - breakfast this morning for Jason was spaghetti with ketchup. He picked out both at the market yesterday not realizing he chose a spicy ketchup - thank goodness we had some mayo to tone it down. He ate two big bowls of "spa -hetti 'n kechp".

Living room doubles as Jason's bedroom - love the windows.

The other side of the living room - parquet floors throughout the apartment.

Bedroom - love the windows.

And the storage is great here and in every room.

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Good news: Two, count them: 1, 2 - appointments tomorrow! On a Saturday! Yay! The team is working hard! Lord Bless them!

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From AM devotions: For all things are for your sakes, that grace, having spread through the many, may cause thanksgiving to abound to the glory of God. 2 Corinthians 4:15

Entranceway with door on left (taken while standing in the kitchen). Classic european WC and seperate tub and sink on left, doorway to living room on right.

Thursday, May 5th, 2011

2011-05-05T13:25:00.000-07:00

We spent over 7 weeks with Jason last year. The joy continues in discovering more about him. On the long drive south and around town yesterday he pointed to several places that he remembered before he moved to the orphanage. The hospital for instance, where he told about having his appendix removed. Another building was where he had lived with his grandmother. Then a store where he had been with school friends. The circus for a field trip.

Today he enjoyed drawing in a sketch pad:

Don't know what we'll do with two sons that enjoy performing:

We had the privilege of hosting Matthias while his parents adopted Anya and Samuel today.

To make a good day great, Jason insisted on cooking dinner.

Sometimes it becomes a challenge to wait for the phone to ring linking us to the next appointment and then the next document. When that happens these reminders linger:

The days in Kiev are precious, without duplication.
Simple living as experienced here is a true blessing - with great value.
The real parenting has yet to begin.

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Rain is coming down at this very moment (11:15 PM) in Kiev, Ukraine. I pray (earnestly) that it does not come down in Eagan, Minnesota today. It's Spring Arts Night at Lucas'(and Jason's) school. My co-chair is now the 'chair'. With mega-help from Dave and a bunch of others. If any body can continue the success of this event it's Stacey!

Wednesday, May 4th, 2011

2011-05-04T13:55:00.000-07:00

He is not an orphan anymore!

The official court decree

As unimpressive as it is, this document carries all the authority it needs to declare that Sasha is now Jason and a member of the Ritzman family forever. (It's written in Ukrainian so there's a lot of trust in our attorney going on here! At least until we can Google Translate....)

If we ever wondered what one might do on their Emancipation Day it took shape as he entered the apartment. (The noun 'apartment' became his keyword for the concept of being released to our custody as in "When me go to your apartment?" and "We go to you apartment today - pleeeease!")

First up: Skyping with Dad and Lucas

What a thrill that moments after entering the apartment Dave and Lucas call us to skype. Jason kept saying "Wow!" Both Lucas and Jason were fascinated watching themselves live. Plus Lucas wanted to show him everything from Sadie to how his front teeth are coming in. Dave wanted details on the day but the boys were having too much fun and suddenly it was time for breakfast in Minnesota and for Lucas to head to school.

Next up: calling the orphanage and talking to the gang

This was a hoot to listen to. He talked to each one and told them the same story - how cool apartment life was, about his new clothes, that we were going to McDonald's for dinner (his choice - big surprise!). He told some of them how he went with Igor and I to meet Viktor (who had retrieved the decree earlier). He didn't communicate this (I don't think he did anyway) that the purpose of the meeting was to get an adminstrator in the region of the orphanage to sign a document. The one is necessary to obtain the updated birth certificate.

Next up: trying out the new clothes and Mom's hair goo

There was a little apprehension on the parental end when we approached the apartment. One of the things he really wanted to do was see his 'cool' new clothes. There was no promise on the parental end about 'cool' clothes (that's not our mode). Still curious where that came from. Evidently the clothes rated pretty well because he let out a "Yyyyes!" when he opened the closet. While it was only half a suitcase full he kept saying "Thank you, Mom, thank you!"

How about, instead, Thank you, Lord, thank you!!!!

Tuesday, May 3, 2011

2011-05-03T12:43:00.000-07:00

Foliage and Flowers at the orphanage today.

The Ukraine Labor Holiday closed school for the second and last (until next week) day. That meant that all of the children were present at the orphanage today. It's only been two weeks yet it was exciting and heartwarming to see those precious faces full of vim, vigor and curiousity.

And there was a lot of curiousity. As well as mixed reactions when they heard Jason's response to their question of when he was leaving the orphanage (tomorrow). Jason displayed moments of genuine understanding in his friend's feelings. At other moments he could hardly contain the joy and even seemed a bit immodest.

For the children at Cradle of Children's Hope, it doesn't take a lot of creativity to imagine what it must be like to see a fellow comrade move on. For those already in the process it probably heightens the expectations. For those without a plan it could have the opposite effect.

Last night as the unpacking progressed in the apartment it felt remarkably like nesting. Unpacking his suitcase for him and getting his belongings prepared his arrival (tomorrow!)was like bonding at a new level - anticipating his reaction and knowing he is very ready to join our family. This interim home is a place where he will find love, care and hope with a future. (Plus toys, games and food from the market!)

Monday, May 2nd, 2011

2011-05-02T11:20:00.000-07:00

The Beatle's tune "Back in the USSR" is rolling around as the blog is written tonight. Probably jet-lag and lack-of-sleep induced. To turn the song to praise: it is very good to be back in Kiev.

At the same time it is very sad to be without Dave and Lucas. Sad and so different.

The good news is that Skype rocks! Seeing both of their faces and hearing both of their voices today (5000 miles away) was amazing and gratifying. Didn't know a virtual hug could be so sweet!

This day came with a real live hug too: Jason (Sasha) came with Igor and Sergei to the airport today! Such a gift Igor gave both of us. He sat right next to me in the car the entire way. Got a chuckle while buckling my seat belt and he said: "Iss ukay! Iss Ukraine!" (No seat belt laws over here.....)

The new apartment is on a quiter street just a block from the first one. Smaller in size but very charming. While we waited for a key to get into the building Jason saw a cat trapped in a garden level window well:

Igor encouraged him to rescue it and a little later the owner came out of the building saying the cat had fallen a few stories to the street level and had been lost. A day for joyous reunions it seems!

Right now the 'sea leg' sensation is getting stronger. That rocking feeling one usually gets from being on a boat - haven't had it from air travel before. It was very surprising to land and read Dave's email that Bin Laden was killed. 3 airplanes and 4 airports later it's interesting to look back at how his death evidently affected security. It explains few things at least: Luftansa disallowing carry-on luggage from Chicago forward; Frankfort security combing through liquids and interviewing traveler after traveler; and just the general sense that something was up.

Safe and sound. The Lord reigns. May his Kingdom come and his will be done.

Sunday, May 1, 2011

2011-05-01T22:22:00.000-07:00

Today was a gloomy, cold and windy day in the Twin Cities yet a happy one as we began our final leg of the journey to adopt Jason (Sasha). Jeanne flew out 12:49 today to Chicago...then to Frankfort. She actually arrived in Frankfort at 11:40 pm (CDT)...10 minutes ago and at the coinciding with the National News that "Usama bin Laden is dead." Good news for all but also a global travel advisory is in effect for Americans traveling abroad. As a husband and father, I'm a little troubled by this...I did pray immediately for Jeanne, Sasha and the other families in Ukraine as well as those returning and coming for the first time. God knew this was going to happen and I completely trust Him to protect and take care of Jeanne and Sasha as I did before this latest news alert.

We went to church Saturday late afternoon followed by a dinner at Applebees. We heard a great message at church on effective prayers and spent time in wonderful worship. The evening was peaceful and mostly on task as we helped Jeanne pack and get final preparations in order. We were all begining to feel sad and anticipating missing one another. She was packed and ready at a reasonable hour. It was good for us to have a glass of wine, spend some time together talking and laughing.

The morning went quickly and without stress although the sadness began to sink in more. We got those heavy bags through United check-in thanks to a very friendly and helpful gate agent. We took pictures (need to get posted) and headed to Houlihans for lunch. Great quesadillas. Tears began to flow. Yet, we know this is God's plan and in 3 weeks, possibly less, Jeanne and Sasha return home and we're family reunited forever. God is Good.

In Chicago, we called each other for the last time 'til Kyiv. Lucas and I were bundled up on the sport court playing tennis and at times, chasing Sadie while a few flakes of snow fell. We headed to the garage to talk with Jeanne and prayed again for a safe and comfortable flight...a few more tears. She called back again after boarding her plane to Frankfort and said she was good and comfortable.

Lucas and I had a good night...dinner...more outside play...a little Wii and lots of comforting, talking and reassurance...he misses momma. As he said, "Dad I like that we'll have special time but I miss momma...she does things you can't...and you do things she can't." I said, "You're absolutely right, buddy...I miss her too."
We got ready for bed, read and said prayers. He was in a good place as he fell asleep.

Time for bed. We hope to Skype in the morning before school. We'll be providing Blog entries from both sides of the ocean.

Friday, April 29, 2011

2011-04-29T15:55:00.000-07:00

Meanwhile back at the ranch.....

A box came from Seoul, South Korea - thank you Jennifer! The gift was filled with Korean salty snacks and candy plus socks for both boys.

Lucas is modeling a pair of the socks. The design fit perfectly with the main cast of his 2nd grade musical at school this year (animals):

While Sadie awaits a day at the spa. Uh, well, uh the groomer......

Today was Grandparent's Day at school. A day for second graders to honor those very special people in their lives. The ones God gave us to shower with love and blessings.

Yesterday 140 second graders and the wonderful Mrs. Herman performed the music program:

Unity Tree - Cats and Dogs. The boys dressed as dogs and the girls dressed as cats.

Today the grandparents got to see the really big show. (Many thanks to aunt Celeste for making the fab lab ears and tail.)

Tuesday, April 26, 2011

2011-04-27T11:48:00.000-07:00

During the waiting period for the adoption process to be complete one question gets asked more than others: What is Jason (Sasha) doing until he 'gets out'?

Biking. The number one thing he tells us when we talk by phone is biking. Number two is biking with friends.

Another favorite: Legos.

And, there are very special times. The Moore family generously invited Jason to go with them as they took Anya and Samuel (with an orphanage chaperon) to a nearby Dolphin show. When we called later that day Jason told us that he had a great time. One highlight was that he was able to touch dolphin. Ever since the visit to the show he treats Lucas to dolphin voices over the phone.

Sunday, April 24, 2011

2011-04-24T09:52:00.000-07:00

Luke 24:34:

THE LORD HAS RISEN INDEED!

We read on another family's blog about Easter in Kiev: At 12:00 Midnight Easter Sunday morning the churches in the city rang their bells in unison for 15 minutes.......imagine the glorious sound of celebration that our Lord is risen and lives to reign forever more........

Saturday, April 23, 2011

2011-04-23T18:25:00.000-07:00

Dictionary definition for the word 'limbo':

An intermediate, transitional or midway, state or place.

That sums it up!

When we call Jason (Sasha) each day there are two things he consistently asks:
1.) "Where Lucas?"
2.) "Mom, you come to me _____(today, the number was "9") days?"

Now, for the first daily question our usual answer is that Lucas is at school. Today, being a Saturday, we had Lucas ready. Lucas has perfected his Eastern European accent by now so we get a good chuckle when the two brothers talk to each other. They have worked out their own dialogue and it's fun to listen to. We have captured some of the banter on video as it will be great to hear in the future.

Now, for the second daily question. When we verify his countdown accuracy to Jeanne's arrival Jason inevitably says with a measure of disappointment "That many days? That big wait!" Jeanne mercifully and wisely resists the temptation to comment to the contrary. Her 'tasks to complete before travel' list is greater than the days to finish them! More importantly it's always heartening to hear Jason's eagerness and know that he pines for he his new life and family.

One big blessing is coming Jason's way tomorrow (Sunday). The Moore family (adopting Anya and Artium) have invited him to attend the dolphin show - an attraction we drove by on the bus each day to the orphanage. Bless you, Moore's!

Thursday, April 21, 2011

2011-04-21T13:40:00.000-07:00

With the addition of Jason (Sasha) to our family, we can say things we couldn't say before like:

"Our Family is doubling the amount of children we have." or
"The four of us will be attending church." or
"Half of us will be flying from Kiev back to the U.S. on May 21st."

...Cool sounding things like that.

The travel plans are official:

May 1st: Jeanne will fly out from Minneapolis on Sunday, May 1st at 12:46 PM and land in Kiev on Monday, May 2nd at 1:15 PM.

May 21st: Jeanne and Jason (or the Double J ) will fly back from Kiev on Saturday, May 21st at 5:35 AM and land in Minneapolis the same day at 6:29 PM.

The length of time to complete the adoption process had to be extended due to the amount of national Ukraine holidays in May where offices are closed (including the U.S. Embassy). Naturally, we are praying that everything goes faster than planned so we can come back home sooner.

Tuesday, April 19, 2011

2011-04-19T16:25:00.000-07:00

Back in the planning phase, 2 weeks sounded like a long time! Two weeks between trips to Ukraine seemed like 'long enough' to get some things in place like: packing clothes and toiletries for Jason (Sasha) since his only belongings are in a tiny little box; home and business preparation, and tasks including preparing Lucas and Dave; help my ever patient co-chair for the school arts night (bless you, Stacey) and pack myself. Whoops, there's that stressed feeling......

While the clock ticks loudly and fast over here, evidently on the other side of the pond it's crawling.

We were told this morning that the time seems to be dragging.....

When we talked to Jason (Sasha)......he seemed down.  And when we asked him about how he sounded, he said the wait feels long. We talked about how we all became used to being together every day. How we miss having lunch and tea time with him as well as playing games and playing outside. We know the orphanage has a few families visiting each day and that seems to be a reminder of what he had just a few days ago and what he is missing now.

There's probably some boredom without the routine of school.  Jason thinks not going to his Ukraine school is cool. However, the very structure of it, daily activities and friends are probably the anitode for the boredom. Before we left, we asked the orphanage to put him back in school. They expressed reluctance since they signed documents officially removing him from school - we pressed but it's their choice.

We have gone from him asking us every day "When is sort (court)?" to "When you come back? Nine day? Eight day?" That's one part of the orphanage life that has a prison-like feel.

Even earlier this morning Dave and I were reminded that we need to continue our diligence and sense of urgency in praying for covering and protection for the rest of process. Background: When we brought Lucas home from the hospital (almost 8 years ago), there was a collective sigh of relief as well as joy while we waited for the adoption to be final. The birthmother was beginning her new life and we were beginning ours. However, while waiting for the court decree, we let our guard down because we had him and thought it was over. However, there was a lot of turmoil and disruption along the way. It wasn't over.
Yesterday, in doing some research for Jason's passport, we read on the U.S. Embassy website that the 10-day waiting period for receiving the document known as the court decree is actually a period of time opening the adoption for an appeal. The Embassy indicates that appeals in adoptions are rare! We believe it and more than that we trust the Lord.  We believe it is His will to adopt Jason as it was to adopt Lucas. And that is why we are watchful and prayerful - the enemy is the enemy. To quote Yogi Berra:  "It ain't over 'til it's over."

Then the LORD said to me, "You have seen well, for I am ready to perform My word." Jermiah 1:12

Monday, April 18, 2011

2011-04-18T20:08:00.000-07:00

Day one of re-entry - curious why the transition forward is so much easier than coming back. Lucas got 10 hours sleep...PTL, I got 8 hours and Jeanne go about 5. I was almost up in the middle of the night too but managed to fight off the urge to think and stay awake. It's hard when it's 3 AM but your mind /body says it's 11 AM.

Lucas was very much looking forward to school. We all walked...well, Lucas mainly ran with Sadie on the leash. Sadie was also excited to go to school again. We heard later the kids in his class all, at the same time, gave him a big hug...and he said he fell down with them all on top of him. They and Mrs. Kratz, his teacher, were also happy to get chocolate from Ukraine...mmm...mmm...good!

Jeanne and I called Sasha this morning (just before 6 pm his time). Natasha, the orphanage social worker answered. It's interesting calling on this side of our visit to the orphanage. We now know all the staff, the children, the orphanage layout and schedule. Its very comfortable calling.

Sasha was very energized and animated in tone when talking with us. I think that the legalization of the adoption and his knowing Jeanne is coming back to get him as well as he'll be in MN soon brings him a lot of security and confidence...us too. He talked about his day, activities like soccer, going to the market, etc. without much prompting on our part.

Today was a transition day for us...organizing, settling in. I also already started researching the RT flight for Jeanne and a 1-way flight back for Sasha. I looked in to Adoption fares offered by Delta. They're not easy-to-do-business on this. Agents don't know about it or the specifics of it. And it's not a great deal plus your entire flight needs to be Delta and not one of their partners..so why bother offering it...b/c you have to fly KLM from Amsterdam to Kyiv. It's a thanks but "no thanks" situation.

Our friends the Landrys, who are adopting a little boy at the orphange, recommended a travel agency Golden Rule Travel. I called...explained and within the hour got a potential itinerary that could work with a one-way fare at approx $500 vs. those listed on Expedia or Delta at $2200. Still need to finalize with Golden Rule but definitely heading in this direction.

Our extended family rocks! The prepared meals they left us is a lifesaver. Excellent food and great to have at the end of a day when the jet lagbegins to kick in.

After dinner we did a bit of yard work in the back, had a fire pit going where Lucas did his school work by. God bless to all. We continue to covet your prayers as we prepare for round 2 which starts May 1st.

Sunday, April 17, 2011

2011-04-17T19:18:00.000-07:00

A powerful welcome home today (after our 9 hour flight from Amsterdam).

It started with the greeting and ride from the airport (thank you, Judy).
It continued with the yard sign, cheer and visiting from neighbors (thank you, Heidi & Mike).
Playtime and visits for Lucas from great neighbor kids (thank you Kaitlyn, Emma, Lara, Alex, Katie, Mikaela and Ella).
And went on with the crockpot of yummy stew filling the kitchen with homey smells and a visit (thank you, Julie and Geno).
It grew with help of Chinese casserole, brownies and milk and visiting (Thank you, Mom and Jackie)
And grew with more visiting and wild rice soup, rolls and cookies (Thank you, T, Celeste and kids)

We are blessed to have family and friends that support, encourage and pray. And grateful for pre-trip advice (Thank you Heath and Ginger). For every email, blog post, card or letter, donation and offer to help - we know who are and are thankful!

Saturday, April 16, 2011

2011-04-16T15:07:00.000-07:00

This blog is coming ‘live’ from the bathroom of room #712 at the Dorint Hotel Amsterdam. We have a 15 hour layover and Lucas is asleep in the ‘bedroom’ so we are camped out in a very euro-style bathroom with our laptops, glasses of cabernet and wireless internet access…..ah the luxury of conveniences…. .or is it the convenience of luxury.

Well, almost luxury…..on the plane ride from Kiev to Amsterdam this afternoon we experienced one of those precious husband/wife moments of miscommunication. Dave expressed how glad he was to be able to check all of the baggage through to Minneapolis. Jeanne acted as if she was hearing the news for the first time. Dave’s carry-on is filled with everything necessary for his overnight stay. Jeanne and Lucas’ carry-on is not…..therefore, a little shopping for cosmetics and toiletries in Schipol Airport.

We have come to adore Sasha’s expressions of genuine joy upon our arrival. Today was a little different as we embraced the sweet sound of adaptation:

“Hi Mum! Hi Ded! Me no Sasha, please me Jason!”

We spent a couple of hours at the orphanage this morning – our last day. We knew we had to manage time well and it was reinforced when we saw how sad Jason was today. We brought a laptop to show him pictures – especially the ones he took yesterday when he was with us during his furlough to Kyiv with us. His friends gathered around and he proudly showed them the shots from his travels to the riverfront, our apartment and Maidan. He then navigated them through pictures from home in the States and pictures we took at the orphanage over the last 5 weeks.

The other dimension of the day was seeing some of our favorite staff at the orphanage (Anna, Tatiana the children's worker, Natasha-the cook) and the children we all grew to love. Part of our time was saying goodbye to them. It was also a beautiful day. Part of our visit was playing outside with the younger as well as older children on the playground and soccer. Even Jessie (orphanage dog) gave long hugs.

When it was time to say “Good-bye” to Sasha, we held on tight. He held on tight. We gave lots of kisses. He kept saying "I love you! I love you!" How hard it was to go!

We were sad too. Even though everything about today was in our normal routine it felt like things do when we are doing them for the last time. Wanting to capture every last detail and lock it away, Hoping that the sites, smells, sounds and feelings can be contained so we can take them out and relive them over and over.

We are so thankful that as we left the soil of Ukraine today - Sasha's soil - that we can safely knowing the court is complete, we only need the decree and he is ours and we are his.

Friday, April 15, 2011 (updated)

2011-04-15T07:20:00.000-07:00

The court is completed!!! Sasha Koshevyy is now Jason Sasha Ritzman.......Details to follow!
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Today began with a lot of peace. We know this day was bathed in prayer thanks to all of our family, friends and prayer partners. Praise the Lord...for all He has done!

We met Sasha at the orphanage early this morning so we could ride with Sergei and Natasha. We all experienced a little anxiousness but Sasha felt it more. On the drive to the courthouse the orphanage Social Worker (Natasha) reviewed with Sasha (in Ukrainian) the purpose of the meeting and then, role-played typical questions that the Judge who ask him. Sasha was wearing the weight of the day even visibly. He told us he had not slept well the night before. We are sure that Sasha has heard stories of the judge's quarters from other children and the Lord knows what is exchanged among them.

Lucas was nervous too and his was if the judge would ask him any questions - he told Sasha he didn't want to answer wrong and get Sasha in trouble. Sasha assured Lucas in typical Sasha fashion: Iss okay, iss Ukraine!

The courthouse building as seen below (picture before court) was nothing like we imagined it. There are many, many impressive buildings in this huge city so we had our sites set high. While this doesn't look like much, the authority of the court hung in the atmosphere of the place. Inside the building was hopping. After going through security, we went upstairs to the judges offices. The office, like most legal offices in Kiev, was very tight. The judge sat behind a workstation that she shared with a court recorder and a judicial clerk. The 7 of us sat in a very tight semi-circle extended from the workstation.

We waited nearly an hour with Natasha, our lawyer (Victor) and a Social Worker from Juvenile Services (Anna...sweet young woman). It was nearing lunch hour, the Judge was behind schedule and it is a Friday: recipe for "hurry up" as well as potential tension. Not to be dramatic (forgive me, I, Dave am reading a Grisham book), we heard the Judge (Tatiana Doshekeviavenakoviwannamylunch) could be in a good mood or a not.......

When the lawyer shows tension it's hard not to get tense. When the lawyer expresses frustration it's hard not to get frustrated. We were finally summoned in. There was a crowd of us (nothing compared to that Boehr group...just teasing Bruce and Jill - congratulations to you all for getting a quick court date).

The proceedings were formal and the Judge's pace rather quick - it was almost surrieal as Victor tried to keep up in the translation so we would understand the proceedings and be ready for 'our part'. We answered basic questions demographic in nature. Sasha and Lucas sat in one chair together. People came and went out of the office without even knocking. At one point, a woman came into the room and distracted everyone as she admired how cute the boys were and asked "Dva?" meaning two...as in are you adopting two....

The judge basically read from a script in a book for us and was pointedly business-like.

But, when she came to Sasha's part everything changed. She called him to her side of the desk so they could see each other eye to eye. Her affect became much more animated and had a distinct maternal tone. The fast pace she kept in the beginning slowed a bit. She began asking him questions about his English (he said he spoke 'chooch' which means 'a little'). She asked how when he came to the orphanage (he said he didn't remember). She asked how he got to the orphanage (his grandmother) and did she come to visit (no) and where was she now (hospital). She went on and asked him was he sure he wanted to go to America (yes) and did he realize how hard it would be to learn another language (yes but he would have help). The interview was the hardest part of the morning. It was also one of the most touching times we can remember.

When Sasha was done Victor prompted me and then, Jeanne to officially submit our request to adopt Sasha and change his name to Jason Sasha Ritzman. We both individually stood up, addressed her as 'your honor' and made our requests all the while Victor translated.

Back to her script the judge said she would take the customary time to decide. We began to leave the office to wait for the decision in the foyer. Then...all of a sudden as we single-filed out of her office she said something in Ukrainian (or Russian, we are not still not sure). As we prepared ourselves for an additonal wait suddenly Victor then Natasha then Anna said "Congratulations"! The customary 10-15 minute wait had been judiciously overruled. That was it! The judge decided what The Heavenly Judge had decided long ago - Sasha is ours and he is called Jason!

The picture immediately after court-Lucas-Natasha-Jeanne-Jason-Dave-Victor-Anna (The Team). Sergei (driver) took the picture. Igor (our leader) and Tatiana (Orphange Director) were busy elsewhere.

Dave, Jeanne and a reluctant Lucas sped off to the US Embassy with Victor to see if we could get a document notarized. Sasha and the rest went to the orphanage. Igor then graciously loaned Natasha as chaperone to bring Sasha back to Kyiv to celebrate Sasha's dream that he explained every day for months: "go to the McDonald's...go to your apartment". Oh the joy for each one of us when we met Sasha at the subway station by the McDonalds on the Dnipro River...Awesome!

After a leisurely meal, we rode the tram up near St. Michaels church with Sasha in photoprapher mode snapping the most interesting shots and repeatedly saying in English, "This is my favorite day"! Great joy! At the apartment, the boys made tea for everyone and played on the computer. After 2 hours we walked Sasha and Natasha to the Maidan Station via the ice cream stand with hugs and kisses until tomorrow when, as Sasha says: "Tomorrow, You come to me?" Yes, Sasha and in a few weeks - you come to us....

We'll continue the blog...the journey's half over. On Saturday, we leave for Amersterdam at 5:30 PM where we'll sleep in the city on a lay-over and on Sunday we'll arrive at MSP at 12:30 PM.

Jeanne'll be back to Kiev around the 1st. Then the transition to America and journey of life will continue. For every prayer, note of encouragement, email of updates and call of support we bless you and thank you a thousand times over.

Thursday, April 14, 2011

2011-04-14T13:49:00.000-07:00

A bit warmer today with sun coming out too. It's starting to feel like Spring again in Kyiv...at least for the day...'cause, "Iss ukay...iss Ukraine."

We were glad to see the Moore family finally at the orphanage. They had their first supervised visit with a Juvenile Services Social Worker and got lots done with their lawyer...good progress and a happy family reunited.

As we entered the orphanage gate to the grounds, Jessie ran to Lucas. She jumped up on him and hugs him with her two front legs around his shoulders. It's cute...kinda like Elliott and ET. They are also very protective of one another. Lucas watches after her that she is safe from other dogs, doesn't chase cats (as she does), isn't chased off herself as she was by a Babushka after she barked at her. Lucas called her a "mean grandma."

It was great to see Sasha as usual. We hung out 50/50 outdoors and indoors in the "play" area next to their dining hall (most of our indoor pictures for the past couple weeks are taken there). Outside was bicycling, scooter, swing, climbing and a little soccer. Indoors was playing on the pull up bars/ladders, in the tub full of sensory balls as well as our new dice game and tea-cookies.

Yesterday, the music teacher, a delightful woman, sat at her piano (in the play area) and sampled many selections of music on her CD player for an upcoming concert that children will perform. Some of the music was absolutely American or Canadian as in the case of a Bryan Adams song. We started to spontaneously do a little karaoke, bouncin' to the beat and then, breakin' out in dance. It was fun and the music teacher encouraged us too. Little did she know what she was encouraging.

We talked with Sasha and Lucas about court tomorrow. We're all mostly excited but still prayin' it through. Igor just called me, as I was posting, to review the timeline. We ask God to go before us to prepare the way and set His ambushments against the enemy. We invite His presence to be upon us all (including the Judge) during this meeting/court time. And we trust Him and give Him all the glory for what He's done and will do.

Thank you for your continued prayers. We so treasure them as does the Lord!

Psalm 145:3 Great is the Lord and greatly to be praised; and his greatness is unsearchable.

Wednesday, April 13, 2011

2011-04-13T12:04:00.000-07:00

Today, we had a very helpful meeting with Igor, our adoption coordinator. It was helpful because we covered all of our timelines from here on out including transportation to court and the airport, lodging for Jeanne upon her return to Kyiv and the final leg that concludes with both Jeanne and Sasha flying home.

The schedule from here:

Friday, April 15th at 11:20 AM--Dave, Jeanne, Lucas and Sasha plus 2 more - our attorney and the orphanage social worker - will meet with the judge to legalize the adoption.
On April 27th the adoption decree (as it is called) that finalizes the adoption will be issued and available for receipt.
Since only one parent is needed after the court date is completed, we decided that Jeanne would fly back around May 1st and get Sasha, complete paperwork and bring him home. (May 1st is after a 10-day waiting period for the decree to be processed plus 4 other days of country holidays including Easter where government offices are closed.) This is how Igor and us arrived at the May 1st date.
The adoption decree is what we use to obtain Sasha's re-issued birth certificate, his exit medical exam, his U.S. passport and an interview from the U.S. Embassy. This typically takes about 12 days to complete which puts us at a mid-May timeframe.

Back to the immediate future: We begin travel back to the U.S. this Saturday, April 16th and arrive in the Cities on Sunday, April 17th in the afternoon. It is bittersweet. Once again, we say goodbye to Sasha (with greater assurance of our future!). For Dave and Lucas, it will be a final goodbye to the orphanage children, staff, Jessie the dog and Ukraine. Not to say that we wouldn't return for a visit some time. Thank goodness for memories embedded in the blog, pictures and emails.

Times with other adopting families and their children have become precious relationships to hold onto not only for us but our Ukrainian children...as illustrated below in playing a dice game:

And where, might one ask, is the other child in our family? Take a guess...

Tuesday, April 12, 2011

2011-04-12T06:47:00.000-07:00

Court Date: Friday, April 15th at 11:20 AM.

Monday, April 11, 2011 Time For More Prayer

2011-04-11T11:03:00.000-07:00

Any guesses at what this is a picture of?

If you guessed the Ukrainian Rada (parliament) your answer is 100% correct!

Now why would we post this picture today? It's about government and here's why:

Alert: Ukraine Adoption From the U.S. State Department

On the evening of April 7, 2011, President Yanukovych signed a Decree transferring all functions of, the State Department for Adoption and Protection of the Rights of the Child (SDA-- the current central adoption authority of Ukraine), to the Ministry for Social Policy. We do not yet know how the implementation of this transfer will affect processing of adoption cases. Whether SDA will be able to continue processing currently filed cases remains unclear.
We will keep monitoring the situation and will provide updates as they become available.

According to SDA, there are now 134 U.S. families registered with the SDA, some of them already in-country. We are asking all American families that are currently in Ukraine or have appointments with SDA during the next few weeks to send their contact information to the U.S. Embassy in Ukraine's Adoption Unit at: kyivadoptions@state.gov. Families should contact their local adoption service provider for further updates and details.

The Presidential Decree will become effective immediately upon its publication in the Government's official newspapers, which may be as early as Monday, April 11.

(Copied from the State Department website today, 4.11.11)

We are one of the "already in-country" families of the 134 registered with the SDA. As the notice requests, we have contacted the U.S. Embassy and our adoption agency. Our coordinator in Ukraine has told us that our adoption court date should be Wednesday or Friday (a change from the original Tuesday or Wednesday).

We are fervently praying. We trust the Lord more than reports, governments or individuals.

Sunday, April 10, 2011

2011-04-10T13:20:00.000-07:00

Nothing new - still do not know if court is Tuesday or Wednesday.

Our fourth Sunday in Kyiv. It was cold and blustery with "off and on" percipitaion of all varieties (rain, ice pellets, snow). After breakfast and Lucas's school time, Jeanne and I basically had church in our apartment...and it was in English! :-)' Devotions, prayer and thanking God for who He is and all He's done for us.

Lucas and I headed to the orphanage today while Jeanne stayed back to catch up on work and volunteer responsibilities. The subways and buses were less busy...maybe due to the yucky weather, yet slower on the way over.

Sasha's rainy day fix - building with Legos.

It was a usual relaxed weekend day at the orphanage. We had lunch and afterwards played a card and dice game. The sun broke open for a bit and we headed out side for the better part of an hour to play on the playground and play soccer. Jessie, the orphanage dog and Lucas hung out while Sasha and I played soccer.

Back inside for tea and then a matching card game with a couple of other children. Headed home after four hours as Jessie escorted Lucas and I all the way to the bus stop.

After getting back to the apartment, we all went back to Maidan (where the shopping and subway are) to go out to Solo Pizza...a treat! Then on to ice cream at the food court in the underground mall...another treat! I picked up a Grisham book in the very small English section of the bookstore as well as some modeling clay for Lucas.

Back at the apartment, our friends the Moore's knocked on the door for help with their cell phone and stayed for a visit...awesome people. Lucas watched Marmaduke with their son Matthias (10) for awhile and then ended up rough housing with their older son Zach (15). Jeanne and I just plain had great conversation with Dave and Nellie. I'm beginning to think a 3 room living space + bathroom is all one really needs...yeah, right...sell that idea back home.

I pray God blesses everyone's week with success!

Saturday, April 9, 2011

2011-04-09T11:00:00.000-07:00

A cold, windy day with off and on sun met us today as we had the privilege of escorting the Boehr family through the subway and bus system all the way to the orphanage. What a bunch of troopers the 4 children and their parents were today! They navigated the daunting escalator that dives deep underground! They jumped on an off the trains with lightening quickness! They stood while the buses jumped over bumps and hurdles and did not slip or fall! They did these and more without a complaint!!!

2 cold and rainy days in a row makes the living room a great place to hang out at the orphanage. The children enjoy photo opps, playing games and climbing on adults. During these times we adults get to witness how the children interact with one another - meaningful and helpful insight as we prepare to parent them!

Sasha and buddies: Andrei, Ilya, Natasha and Lucas.

A big group comes out for a matching game.

Always up for a photo opp!

Friday, April 8, 2011

2011-04-08T00:01:00.000-07:00

HOT OFF THE PRESS NEW TRAVEL PLANS:

Dave, Lucas and Jeanne: Depart from Kiev, Ukraine Saturday April 16
Arrive in Minnesota Sunday, April 17th.

Igor let us know that some big holidays were coming in Ukraine (plus the post from Chris - thank you!) and since many government offices are closed for Easter and then again in May it makes more sense for Jeanne to travel back to the states for awhile.

The projected return for her to come back to Kiev is around May 1st. Roughly 2 weeks (and many prayers) later she will bring Sasha home.

Thursday, April 7th

2011-04-07T13:51:00.000-07:00

Update: Court date will take place on either Tuesday April 12 or Wednesday April 13th.
Corresponding action: Able to exhale at last! (At least a little bit....)

After hearing the great news this morning, we have been taking time (off and on) all day to figure out the game plan from here. Since our original schedule was set to fly back to the U.S. tomorrow, Friday the 8th; we have had to scramble a bit to figure out the new return dates:

The new plan:
Dave and Lucas return to the U.S. on Saturday, April 16th.
Jeanne and Sasha return to the U.S. on Wednesday, May 11th.

Once the court portion is settled the adoption decree is available after 10 days - which falls on a weekend - so Tuesday, April 25th is the soonest the decree can be obtained. Once the decree is obtained 12 days is needed to complete a number of things for Sasha's updated status: a new birth certificate, physical and passport (from the U.S. Embassy).

In the meantime we continue to enjoy and treasure our family adventure in Kiev. Once this is all over (and we re-enter real life) we can't get the time or significance back! We are thankful for many, many things. Our hearts are already overflowing and we still have a lot of time left in the expedition.

Some photos from today:

Lucas 'oversees' Sasha's learning time.

Gametime at the Moore's aparment.

Wednesday, April 6, 2011

2011-04-06T13:42:00.000-07:00

Update: All documents in. HALLELUJAH!! Court date pending.

Details: Our coordinator affirmed at 8:10 PM tonight that all required documents are in the attorney's possession. The next step is to appeal to the judge for a court date. We are praying that as our attorney meets with the judge tomorrow (Thursday) a date will be set to finalize the adoption for no later than next week.

Patience wore a little thin today around the team - including us! At least 2 people were shielded from the challenges and it shows in their faces:

Both Sasha and Lucas make the most of things and manage to have great fun together whether it's lunch time, learning time, tea time or play time. May that always be.

Tuesday, April 5, 2011

2011-04-05T14:33:00.000-07:00

As I was ready to blog, I heard Jeanne yell, Dave, I need your help! Well this was the scene tonight as our washing machine flooded the bathroom.

Earlier tonight was much more fun when we went with the latest family arriving from MN, the Moores (Dave, Nellie and their two sons Zach and Matthias), for ice cream in Maidan...a 10 minute walk to the center of Kyiv. Lucas was very excited to meet someone staying in our building like Matthias (10). We had a great time. Ice cream was good too.

We had a good day at the orphanage. The boys had a lot of fun. And I had a gracious customer call my cell for a conference call.

We are still waiting to hear about a court date. Thank you for your continued prayer and support.

Monday, April 4, 2011

2011-04-04T10:29:00.000-07:00

Adoption process update:
        Today's interview completed.
        Document signed by one person, to be finalized and collected tomorrow.
          No court date yet.

Details: The chief officer conducting the interview was one hour late. The orphanage director handled the interview. We waited in the car ready just in case we were asked to appear at the interview. We do not know what discussion took place in the interview. The only things we know is that one of the signatures was obtained and one more is needed on this document. We have been told the document will be ready tomorrow and our attorney will collect it.

Also today, our attorney planned to run our file passed the judge. The purpose of that pre-meeting is to see if the judge would be asking for any other documents hoping to handle those requests in advance of the court date. We do not know the outcome of that meeting. We also do not know how soon we can expect to have a court date assigned. We will ask tomorrow once we know the outcome of the document retrieval as well as if our attorney was able to see the judge.

Psalm 37:23 The steps of a man are established by the Lord when he delights in his way

Sunday, April 3, 2011

2011-04-03T12:20:00.000-07:00

Whoo-hoo...the hot water is back! It was a beautiful Sunday. Lucas and I headed to the orphange while Jeanne stayed back to get caught up on work and home tasks.

As we approached the orphanage, we saw all the children outside and several adults we didn't recognize with a huge number of bicycles being repaired or ridden by the children. Sergei and the other adults were helping in the repairs. I counted approximately 17 bikes. Some were in good condition, some not and a few will need a new tire. My friend from CT and one of the older children (Vladik) repaired 2 bikes a week ago (e.g., new tubes, tires, pedal, spoke tightening, etc) before he and his family flew home. Wish he was here today!

I finally figured out that the adults I didn't know belong to a foundation that supports the orphanage called Star Dream (www.detdom.com.ua/ ) who donated these bikes. It was like Christmas - the children all excited with big eyes and smiles everywhere. Sasha greeted us with a big hug and a "where's mommy" and then, preceeded to point at a bike saying, "me bike." Then other kids said the same.

The children worked along side the adults and Vladic too. Repaired tires, chains, brakes, etc and filled them with air. I also noticed several, new to them, scooters being ridden around. This was huge and exciting especially after sharing only two bikes and a scooter this year. Spring and Christmas were here together on this Sunday afternoon.

We took a break and had obid (lunch) as a family. Afterwards we went outside to continue the bike assembly and repair. Then about 15+ colleged-aged girls came. I found out they were volunteers for the Star Dream Foundation. They interacted with the children, played some and then began a traditional spring task of painting the trees and curbing with white wash. Apparently, this prevents trees from being infected by insects. We have begun to see this white-wash on many trees in the Kyiv area..."Iss ukay...iss Ukraine!"

Lot's of fresh air and activity outside with bike riding, playground playing, soccer and helping with the beautification project. Lucas and I ended after staying nearly 5 hours.

Some news items...first, another MN family arrives tomorrow night (the Moores to adopt a girl and a boy). Second, our adoption agency (European Children Adoption Services- Plymouth, MN) just did an email announcement for this summer's hosting program. Some of the children viewed on our blog are available for hosting. We can genuinely encourage that any of these children would be a blessing to host this August.

Saturday, April 2, 2011

2011-04-02T14:20:00.000-07:00

Slept in today and started the day with "no hot water"...eyow! Lucas and I chose to stay stinky and not shave...that was particularly hard for Lucas.

Left to orphanage around 11:30. After the subway, I received what I perceived was a tongue lashing from our bus driver for giving him the wrong amount. Ended up paying him 3 more grivna ( about 40 cents). He was rough with the other passengers too. Had a similiar experience with the bus driver on the way back...wierd. I resisted temptation to give it back to them.

All of this reminded me of something Sasha says..."Iss ukay...iss Ukraine!" To get the full effect picture Sasha with his palms face up and parallel to the floor while shrugging his shoulders as he says, ..."Iss ukay...iss Ukraine!" I said to Jeanne this would be a great SNL skit and then said, "I smell a blog." So this is our ..."Iss ukay...iss Ukraine" Blog!!!

Uncollared, stray dogs wandering everywhere..."Iss ukay...iss Ukraine!
Pushing and shoving your way to the exit on the subway..."Iss ukay...iss Ukraine!"
Consuming the entire plate of cookies and chocolates at every tea time..."Iss ukay...iss Ukraine!"
Impatient bus drivers snapping at passengers..."Iss ukay...iss Ukraine!"
Cars having the right a way and parking anywhere they want including the sidewalk...
"Iss ukay...iss Ukraine!"

Four or more mounded teaspoons of sugar in your tea..."Iss ukay...iss Ukraine!"
A pack of gum costing more than a bottle of wine..."Iss ukay...iss Ukraine!"
People admonishing parents for a child's untied shoelaces..."Iss ukay...iss Ukraine!"
A springtime chore of burning piles of leaves/branches uncontained in their front yards ..."Iss ukay...iss Ukraine!"
Water in a restaurant costing more than a glass of beer..."Iss ukay...iss Ukraine!"
Instead of a Starbucks on every corner, beer and pop kiosks at every bus stop ..."Iss ukay...iss Ukraine!"
Smoking areas are the best seating in the restaurant..."Iss ukay...iss Ukraine!"

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Around the orphanage today:

Friday, April 1, 2011

2011-04-01T14:15:00.000-07:00

Hey! We're back in MN! April Fools! ...actually a bit of MN came to us in the form of the Boehr Family. They flew in last night...all 6 of them...Jill and Bruce and their 4 children, Brian (11), Stephanie (10), Katie (7) and Olivia (5). They're here to adopt a 10 year old boy...Ilya.

They hosted last summer and our Ukraine boys talked to each other quite a lot by phone over that time so it's great for us and the boys to have the connection. In fact, at the orphanage today, a lot of the boys including Sasha and Illya we're playing soccer. Another good work out on a beautiful sunny and warm Spring day. Thank you, God!

I had some business to attend to early this morning so Jeanne and Lucas made the trip alone. A good trial run for Jeanne since she'll be doing it by herself on the last leg of this journey. I came an 1 1/2 hours later with the lunch. I was greeted by some hungry boys and their mom!

We had some of the usual activities...greeting Jessie, a little wrestling, playing on the playground, bicycle, swing, cards and English learning time with mom and then, the big soccer game when the rest of the children returned home from school.

Jeanne went back to the apartment early today so Lucas and I took the bus-subway journey ourselves. I asked him how he was doing being in Ukraine and away from home. He said he missed Sadie, his friends and school. He wasn’t overtly sad but you could tell it’s been a long time away in a strange country for a little guy. I told him how proud mommy and I were of him.

On the subway home plans were made to take Boehr's to our favorite Kiev Pizza place...Solo Pizza. Since it's hard to give directions when the signs are in the cyrillic alphabet I headed to their apartment across from the Opera House (awesome view) and escorted them to Solo's. The restaurant is next to the Subway and the underground mall Jeanne raves about and Bruce said reminded him of Rosedale.

We had a great time and our families meshed very well. Lucas was excited about English speaking friends...so were we. We were placed in a large booth in a far corner that beckoned "for large group of loud Americans" and we loved it. Our waiter Sasha was a good sport and even knew some English. It was good pizza with salad for the adults and banana splits for the kids afterwards. It was also the most English we spoke outside of immediate family since the other family went back to Connecticut. Glad we haven't lost our language......

Thursday, March 31, 2011

2011-03-31T13:47:00.000-07:00

Subway token: 25 cents.
Bus fare: 33 cents.
Hearing Igor say "I have good news." Priceless

"I have good news for you" is exactly what we heard Igor say today. We are still chuckling at the difference between his definition of 'good news' and our definition of 'good news". We are thankful for his wisdom and insight more each day. He has a gracious spirit and it's easy to tell the children respect him.

We were hoping to hear 'court date' instead of 'interview'. Here's the scoop: 2 districts represent Sasha's welfare in the adoption. One of the districts' juvenile officers has signed a document necessary to request a court date. The other district must sign as well and that juvenile officer is requesting an interview before signing. Our interview is scheduled for this coming Monday.

In response to our question wondering if this procedure is customary - Igor said he had never had a request like this before.

At any rate - there was an immediate answer to prayer this morning and we are thankful! Igor is hoping we can advance the process directly from the officer's desk (during the interview) rather than adding the few days needed to get through the SDA again to the court.

The Lord his God is with him and the shout of the King is among them. Numbers 23:21
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Time to catch up on photos:

Looking to the North from the apartment

Looking to the South from the aparment toward the 'Maidan Square'

The Maidan Square area of Kiev

More of Maidan Square - the dome is where the underground mall

is located and one of the many entrances to the subway.

Wednesday, March 30, 2011

2011-03-30T13:55:00.000-07:00

Oh happy day...Ohhh happpy day-a-ay...when Jesus walked...ya, when He walk-a-alked. He took my cares away...I remember this song on the radio as a boy (givin' away my age). The Edwin Hawkins Singers.

It felt like that kinda day today...PTL!

It was truly Spring...mid-50s and sunny.
The adjustments we made for a smoother flow at home and the orphanage worked!
Found a great buy* on a DVD "Despicable Me" (not trying to rap here ;-)
Enjoying simple pleasures at dinner with grilled tuna & cheese sandwiches, fresh broccoli, sliced/salted cucumbers and orange slices
Thankful hearts for God's peace, grace, provision and protection.
Flowers, flowers and more flowers as vendors sell fresh and beautiful arrays at the subway (we bought a bouquet for the orphanage director, Tatiana...Big Smiles as Lucas handed them to her.)

At the orphanage:
Several of the younger children were home from school for some reason. That's always good for Lucas because he and the children really enjoy each other's company.

We spent the first hour in learning time with Sasha to help him learn English better. It was a special time for Jeanne and Sasha. After lunch, we tried to stay out most of the time because it was so warm.

Before going out, the boys (Lucas, Sasha, Georigy and Andre) as well as myself had a little basketball clinic a la the Harlem Globe Trotters...spinning BBalls or soccer balls and rolling them from one hand to another via past our necks. Then everything busted out into a wrestling match a la "cage style" wrestling as opposed to Big Ten wrestling...more WWF with tickling ( or "shickles" as pronounced in Ukranian...I heard a lot of..."no shickles"...I wonder why...hmm). We had your usual "noogies", "pile drivers", "souffle's" , etc with only a couple bent fingers or stepped on toes. It was all good 'n' fun.

Outside we alternated with Sasha bicycle riding or Lucas playing on playground stuff and then, all of us playing soccer. Children started comin' home from school and some joined in. We also had our afternoon tea. This is a habit we'd like to incorporate at home. It's great chill time and family time for about 20 minutes...good treats too.

Over 4 1/2 hours past by quickly and it was time to say goodbye 'til Zaftra (tomorrow).

PRAYER REQUEST: Please pray for us to get to the court date scheduled. Our return flight to MN is about a week away. There is one specific document completed and literally sitting on a Government Official's desk waiting for their signature. Without it, there will be no court date. Thank you so much to all of you that pray for us. We treasure your prayers and they are effective! Please feel free to send you requests to us - we are glad to add our faith. God Bless you all!

* The details of the DVD deal: $65 Grivnah ($8 USD) vs. the pre-sale email I received today from Best Buy for $19.95. It's a "guy thing" =D

Tuesday, March 29, 2011

2011-03-29T12:50:00.000-07:00

Today's Highlights:

Brothers in the making: modeling their brand new hats and posing their best 'mom' pose....

And then the pose of their choice.....

Other things we enjoyed today:

Family tea time (with lots of sugar for the newest tea drinker).

Learning time with Sasha as we all teach him English.

Witnessing the orphanage children welcome a newly admitted sibling group of 3.

Observing Vladik verbally protect Sasha from some bullies at the bus stop.

Talking together about our future as family.

Sasha trying to model Lucas calling "Ded, Ded!" instead of "Popi" (in reference to Dave).

Enjoying the nicer weather and spending time on the orphanage playground.

Even more brotherly bonding time.....

Monday, March 28, 2011

2011-03-28T14:04:00.000-07:00

Sasha and Natasha model the school uniforms.

The orphanage had a such a different vibe today. Last week the children were out of school due to their Spring Break. Interesting to compare the Spring Break the way so many children know it to the one for kids in the orphanage. When school is in session these kids get to walk the 15 minutes to school, and after school maybe have an extracurricular activity like a sport or music before going back to the orphanage. But during Spring Break the fence of the property and the walls of the building are it. No MOA, no going to visit grandma, no Florida or even the public library.

Yes, pity can creep in sometimes........

Especially each day when it's the end of our visiting time and we gather our things getting ready to start the hour long trip back to the apartment. Two polar regions go into effect - Sasha begging, clinging "No, you stay, pleeeeease you stay" and Lucas begging, running away "Do we have to leave? Whyyyyyyy can't we stay?" Both boys are never ready for us to leave. That was the scene today when we suddenly had the chance to go shopping at the big market. When we are on the bus schedule the pressure for us to leave is low - we can ease into things gradually.

But when the driver says he is ready to take us to the market we have to get into action as fast as a Kievite heading to a fashion boot sale!

Going to the big market has come to mean many things. First and foremost: we get a driver that graciously and deftly doubles as a personal shopper. Being driven means that we can shop for groceries and sundries at will without having to limit our bag weight. Riding the bus then subway then walking means we consider the bag weight as we shop - not something we ever had to learn in our part of the U.S!

Having a personal shopper means that when we stand in a store the size of Super-Target with no discernable signs or letters in sight we are lead to the cereal aisle in seconds. In addition, and even better, when we are unwittingly about to put an inferior brick of butter in our cart a wise hand motions 'no-no' and leads us to the blue ribbon winner. Or, when we forget to have the oranges weighed and tagged we are micraculously rescued from the produce police.

Needless to say the chance of going to the big market trumps just about everything. So today as the vehicle slowly backed down the driveway one child stood outside on the browned lawn and sadly waved us away the other sat moaning inside the car about the unfairness of it all.......we parents sat very still, silently, joyfully, grinning in anticipation.....

Sunday, March 27, 2011

2011-03-27T12:17:00.000-07:00

When the plans and preparations were made to be out of the country for a month, one of the most underestimated areas was the need for communication from friends and family. When the 'norms' and routines of regular life are set aside for the sake of life in the new place, being connected to the relationships you value the most keeps you healthy.

When, at the end of the day, the email is opened and a note from a family member or friend is there it's like opening the post office box and getting nice card. When someone takes a few minutes to write a line or two about what they did that day or how work is going or how they talked to so-and-so it's like getting a bouquet of flowers! But, alas, some days there are no flowers. Some days there are no cards.

Because the blog is a broadcast of sorts the response time is limited (even unnecessary). So, while not every email will get answered - the guarantee is that every one will get read. Every one will be shared. Every one will be treasured.

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A few have asked about remaining travel - the blog post for March 3rd remains in effect: Dave, Jeanne and Lucas will be back in the U.S. Saturday, April 9th. About 10 days later (the official waiting period after the court date) Jeanne will go back to Kiev to finish the paperwork with Ukraine and the U.S. State Department and then bring Sasha home - travel completed by the end of April.

We will update the blog if this changes. Hopefully this week we will find out the court date for the adoption.

Saturday, March 26, 2011

2011-03-26T14:39:00.000-07:00

Well, daylight saving time comes to Kiev at 3:00 AM Sunday (few hours 'til midnight). That means this is the 2nd hour of sleep we lose this year ;-D

Snowing again today...a little harder but nothing really stuck. It did brighten up the cloudy day and was fun to walk in on the way to the Metro (subway). We have "the drill" from our apartment down well now. I made a wrong turn yesterday, though, as we headed underground and followed the walkway that leads to the 3 story (underground) shopping mall - imagine Jeanne's delight and surprise.....

Suprisingly, to us, the subway was packed for a mid-morning on a Saturday. So was the bus...we were pressed together like rush hour on Friday night. There are 100's of these buses carrying 1000's of passengers everyday.

The money handling for bus fare is amazing to watch. There's a big carpeted berm next to the driver that people throw their bus fare money on. When the buses get crowded people pass the money up and down an aisle of standing passengers. It's kind of like buying a bag of peanuts at a Twins game when you're seated dead center in a row. It's quite an honor system. Sometimes the driver has an assistant riding shotgun to help take money. Quite simple but it works. Also, young children, like Lucas are encouraged to sit on the berm to save space, I believe.

Opening the gate to Orphanage's fenced in play ground, Lucas was greeted with hugs, by Jessie, our lovable dog friend. When we got in the building we were suprised to see Igor there today. He greeted us and explained the people in his office were his spouse and 2 sets of visiting friends. He introduced us to his lovely wife Anna. She had a great smile and warmly greeted us. There was also a woman there considering the adoption of a child.

We found all the kids in the commons area...some watchin' the "new" TV, others playing checkers, some doing puzzles, playing games on handhelds and reading as well as plain socializing. The other family was there too. We enjoy their company and recognize the bond that experiences like this brings.

Soon it was lunchtime. Everyone (all children + both visiting families) got in 3 lines and were led in prayer by one of the workers. The children all "steepled" their hands and bowed there heads. It was very cool.

No goin' outside. Sergei (driver and weekend caretaker) didn't want any children out in the snow...didn't want them sick I interpreted from our "charade-type" of exchange. So we read, did puzzle books and played indoor soccer. The other dad and his son went to the local bike store to get equipment to repair two bicycles. Sasha, sometimes the gymnast, walked around for awhile:

The oldest boy in the orphanage, Vladic, is a great kid, well-mannered, very bright. He hung out with us in the afternoon doing sudoku or helping repair bikes while younger ones napped. I sure hope he and is sister Natasha and younger brother, Nicholai get adopted or at least hosted. All 3 are wonderful kids. The family that gets them will be blessed. Lucas has been begging to bring them with us...especially Vladic.

Tea time: Anna, a very sweet worker, made tea for us all with cookies and candies. Shortly afterwards, we decided to call it a day. We went to the bus stop and Sergei let Sasha and Vladic escort - with Jessie of course. The bus stops are a culture unto themselves. Each one has kiosk-type tea/food vendors, markets, pop, beer and other goods. The larger the bus stop the more vendors and kiosks. Some shots from the bus stop close to the orphanage:

At the apartment we made the last of the pasta and sauce we brought from the U.S. Later we made time for movie night by watching 'Marmaduke' on the laptop enjoying Popsecret microwaved hot and buttery!

Friday, March 25, 2011

2011-03-25T15:15:00.000-07:00

Headed to the subway at 10 am today. A bit snowy. Grabbed a bus and we were at the orphanage in an hour.

Lucas was excited as usual...us too. The vacation part is somewhat over...the newness, the novelty, Europe...in some ways we expected it and now we just want to "git 'r done." However, we are enjoying the journey, trusting God and continually asking for His help, His favor and His protection over us as a family (4 of us) and the process.

At the orphanage we had fun playing games, soccer, visiting our dog friend- Jessie (we fed her bread from the kitchen...heh...heh). Lucas actually saw her bury 2 pieces. I think she has a number of stashes all over the play area. We also had tea with the other family and our respective Ukraine kids during nap/rest time. I think our Sasha and their child feel pretty special as they opt out of things like the 3 hour naptime. Right after naptime the 'new' TV arrived. Guess it's a 'guy' thing all over the world.....

We met with Igor the coordinator today. He is very caring as he watches over the process and we trust him. He was helpful to give us a better context about our estimated times and dates from here on out. The ones we were given by our agency in MN were based on past experience with adoption in Ukraine. Of course past experience is usually a good indicator of future performance......

But, as he further explained, that experience was gained in a previous Ukraine President's administration. Igor and his team had well developed and trusting relationships. The levels of government got things done relatively effeciently from level to level, region to region. That's changed.

The new President and Administration (I believe it was last Spring) has all new people all the way down to local offices. His roots, from what I've read are in Russian communism, culture and ideology. There's a general lack of trust. There are many new people trying to do jobs that were done perfectly well by others. Time in signing basic things takes the maximum allowed. Little or no delegation is happening so the 'chiefs' are overloaded. For attorneys like Viktor there are twists and turns as the game is the same but some of the rules have changed along with the players.

Why all this explanation on the Blog Dave? You're "bringin' me down, Dave! First, we are not afraid. Better to be warned and praying in advance than not to be warned and not praying! Jeanne and I actually appreciated knowing from Igor the truth of how fluid the situation is and we can now pray specifically. We do not serve a Lord who's arm is too short. We serve a big God and we "can do all things through Christ Jesus who strengthens us" (Philippians 4:13).

We ended the day walking from the orphanage to the market where we picked up fresh fruit and yet another cereal to try. Catching the bus we stood for 30 minutes getting to the subway. At the end of the subway we got off at the right station but took the wrong exit to the street level. We came out to pouring rain and 'surprise' another McDonald's (that's 2 in just a few blocks - have we said it already - they love McDonald's here!). Walking in the rain and feeling lost we considered a taxi but realized we don't know how to say our address audibly. Plan B - stop for dinner, dry off and regroup at the little cafe near the apartment - a cozy place with good food and great service. Now if we could just pronounce the name....

Thursday, March 24, 2011

2011-03-24T13:15:00.000-07:00

We had a sunny start to this morning as we went with Viktor (our lawyer) to a Public Notary to sign and notarize more papers. After that, the day became cloudier and colder. We did more mundane things since we couldn't go to the orphanage because of a government inspection. Lucas did school, Jeanne caught up on her volunteer responsibilities and I did so with work. Lucas and I did go to the park on the way to the market. Met a couple and their 3 year old son from London visiting their mum who works with the British Consulate. More tomorrow. Good night!

Wednesday, March 23. 2011

2011-03-23T13:58:00.000-07:00

Today we took our signed SDA paper and Dossier to Juvenile Services with our lawyer Viktor to get a supervised visit to the orphanage. The 9:00 AM appointment across town was in a small office shared by three social workers. Lucas, Jeanne, Viktor and I literally scrunched in while we answered the Social Worker's questions through Viktor's interpretation (e.g., how we met Sasha, our work, our home, how we decided to adopt, etc.). We answered the questions at face value but in the back of my mind I thought did I say something that's going to disqualify me from going to the orphanage...not that I would answer any differently.

At one point, there was a lot of exchange in Russian and it seemed a little contentious...or it was the Eastern European tone. But...Glory to God...after a few minutes wait in the hallway, we were going to the orphanage with a Social Worker for our 1st visit.

She stayed with all us for 15 minutes, we left the office and never saw her again. Viktor said he was taking her back to her office to sign some more papers. It was five days later than expected but now we are "free at last, free at last" to see Sasha at the Orphanage anytime we want. Thank you Jesus!

It was a major milestone and victory. We had "the best day ever" as Lucas would say or sing the Sponge Bob Song. We could talk and play with Sasha and the other kids, wrestle, play soccer and hang out.

During lunch it was also great conversing with another family adopting a teen girl. This is their second time in Kiev as they adopted from the same orphanage 3 years ago. I went with them to the nearby market to get a few lunch items and on the way back an older woman recognized him - she had been the boy's caretaker at the orphange when he was first admitted (age 4). He is now 13 (adopted at age 10 and a great kid!). The caretaker's daughter spoke English and translated the spontaneous reunion. The woman told how she had prayed for him to be in a good Christian Family way back then as she was teaching him. The family blessed her and thanked her for teaching him so well and praying. God confirmed to her today that her prayers were answered in a divine way. PTL!

Back at the ranch, so to speak, the boys, myself and th eother father got into a good, fairly aggressive game of soccer. Alot of fun, laughs and a work out. Some of the kids including Lucas befriended a young German Shepard mix dog--Jessica. Very sweetie dog and one of the many we see roaming the city and countryside...the communal pets. All of us were outside on a very sunny, warm and beautiful day.

We also took the bus (sp? "menushka") back to the subway. Another experience that went very well. It's 2.50 Grivnah/person or about 33 cents. The subway is 2 Grivnah each and Lucas is free. The cost and ease of public transportation is good once you understand where to go and get off.

No orphanage Thursday because they have a government inspection. We have to go to a Notary with our Lawyer in the morning to sign papers (not sure what about 'til tomorrow). Back at the orphanage Friday!

Tuesday, March 22, 2011

2011-03-22T12:20:00.000-07:00

So now we know for sure - there is food poisoning in Kiev! Lucas got hit pretty hard over night and Jeanne and Dave had minor occurences. We have narrowed down the culprit to dry soup mixed with tap water. It's been a funky day after a sleepless night.

We did manage to get ourselves together and go to the SDA to pick up our referral letter. That particular office does not open until 4:00 PM (or until tea time is over).

The cool thing is that the half-hour wait afforded us the time to meet and talk to other adoptive families from the States. (There were other families waiting but somehow we only talked to the English-speaking ones....). A couple from Louisville KY and a woman traveling with her young adult son from Salt Lake City, UT.

Tomorrow morning we will go with Viktor to the juvenile services office to present the letter from the SDA (referral letter) that gives us access to the orphanage to meet Sasha for a supervised visit.

On Friday we alluded to some topics to be covered in a future blog - here goes:

Official renaming of Oleksandr Koshevyy:
        Last Friday Igor pulled aside and told us that if we were going to give Sasha a new name it had to be done that day. The social worker was leaving town for 2 weeks and she needed to prepare the documents before she left. We had known since last summer that Sasha wanted to change his name to Jason but since we arrived last week he said no, he wanted to be called Justin now. With Igor transalating (and Tatiana and Natasha present as well) we presented Sasha with 4 options one of which he could choose: Oleksandr (Sasha), Paul, Joshua or Jason. Such a weighty time! He chose Jason. The official records will show his name to be: Jason Sasha Ritzman.

A high level family meeting entertaining 8 more adoptions.
           We were having dinner last week and the 3 of us were talking about how we could adopt all of the children. Each of us felt exactly the same - that we want to bring home and join to our family any or all of the children unspoken for. Together we remarked how amazing the children at Cradle of Children's Hope are. Even though the language difference is a barrier it's pretty easy to see their individual tempraments, gifts and abilities. These children get a lot of help and intervention. From group therapy sessions to classes taking place right in the orphanage there is an equipping of them that draws out their strengths.

The impact of new admissions.
         During our initial tour of the orphanage we were taken to 3-room area specifically for newly admitted children. Upon admission the children are quarantined and examined for things like illness, affliction, lice and behavior issues. After a period of time (or, we guess, when beds are available) they integrate and join the rest of the children. During our tour these children were sleeping (it was afternoon naptime) and then we saw them at the concert given last week. The children were brought into the performance room and sat in the chairs where we adults sat to watch their future friends perform the concert. These stunningly beautiful children are a sibling group with 1 girl (guessing she's 8) and 2 boys (maybe 5 & 6). They looked frail and withdrawn especially with their heads shaved.

We are hoping and praying the delay with the SDA does not push our court date past our scheduled flight time back to the states. We will ask Viktor tomorrow.

Monday, March 21, 2011

2011-03-21T14:51:00.000-07:00

Hello, Lucas here today. My mom interviewed me during lunch and this is it (the SDA stuff is after my interview):

M: So, today for the blog I am going to interview you about your perspective of Ukraine.

L: Oh. What does that mean?

M: That I will ask you questions about Ukraine.

L: I don't like it.

M: Okay, well, let's start with the positive. I will ask you questions and you answer.

L: All right.

M: How did you like the Tram?

L: Rockin' good.

M: How about the Subway?

L: Awesome!!

M: Which one did you like better?

L: The Subway because it is so fast and so dark.

M: Hmm, I don't remember it being dark.

L: There were lights in the train but the tunnel was dark because it's underground.

M: How about the food. What do you like for food?

L: I like the cheese and the bread of course and the ice cream.

M: What restaurants did you like?

L: I like the pizza one the most. I liked the place we went to 2 times where I had the pancakes with meat inside. Can we go there for breakfast sometime? Remember they have Breakfast?

M: Okay, let's do that. Let's ask Dad.

M: How do you like the apartment?

L: I like it. I like my bed. I like that the apartment is so small. I love the security thing. There is a key to our apartment and I like the security phone. I like that our kitchen is so small and that our bathroom is small too.

M: How do you like the orphanage?

L: I LOVE the orphanage! The kids are so nice there. They are nice to me and they kept saying thank you when they got their presents yesterday. And I kept saying your welcome.

M: Would you like to live there?

L: Yes.

M: What don't you like about Ukraine?

L: Not really anything.

M: Oh, I thought you said there were things you didn't like.

L: That people don't know our language. I don't like the paperwork takes so long. I don't like phone calls from Igor and Viktor and the meetings. I do like Igor and Viktor I just don't like the phone calls. Also, I am scared about seeing the judge.

M: What scares you about seeing the judge?

L: I hope he understands English in case he asks me questions. I hope he's not mean. I hope he doesn't ask me any questions.

M: I think Viktor will translate for you if the judge does ask questions.

L: Can I watch Marvel now?

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SDA Mission mostly accomplished!

We went with Viktor, our attorney, to the SDA office (adoption center). Last week this same meeting started (usually lasts about 10 minutes) and then stopped because we did not possess a certain document from the Ukraine welfare office. Last Thursday the document was signed by the Welfare office.

The purpose of our meeting today was to present the now signed welfare document to the SDA, affirm that Sasha is the child we want to adopt and receive a signed “letter of referral”. Today we accomplished the first 2 of the 3 objectives – in 10 minutes. The third objective – receive the letter of referral - did not happen due to the absence of the manager. That means that we will be going back to the SDA office tomorrow at the precise time such documents are allowed to be obtained: 4 PM. Thankfully we can walk to the SDA office from our apartment in just 15 minutes.

Then what? We will go to the juvenile welfare office and present our letter of referral (with Viktor) on Wednesday morning, hopefully. The purpose of that meeting is to get permission to visit the orphanage under juvenile welfare supervision. We hope to have the first supervised visit at the orphanage on Wednesday as well.

In the meantime we: just keep praying, just keep praying, just keep praying….

Sunday, March 20, 2011

2011-03-20T14:02:00.000-07:00

Our first Sunday in Kyiv. Cloudy and colder today (30's). Igor called and sounded really sick. Said he wouldn't be goin' to orphanage which meant, we didn't have a ride. So, I thought let's have a family adventure. We'll take the Metro (subway) & menuschcas (Sp?...little yellow buses). to get to the orphanage. I asked Igor for instruction. He wanted to show us the first time but I was determined to go today. He gave me instructions. At the end of our call, he said he'd get Sergei to pick us up at the Metro stop near the orphanage. That works!

With limited Russian & a couple kind souls we were headed in the right direction and counted the # of stops (everything is in Cyrillic spelling...not pheonetic like Google translator...go figure =)' 30 minutes/7 stops later on a "screammin'" (fast & loud) train, wella...we're there! It was great to see Sasha. It'd been 2 days. Kids we're havin' a special tutor time while we as family (4 of us) went downstairs. There was knitting, Didj and sports...yes, I'm still working on my knitting. The boys wanted to wrestle...but not on a wood floor so we played futbol...boys against Poppi.

We met a delightful woman Anna. She was a cook and housekeeper. Full of life and laughter. She really enjoyed our company as we did hers. We were given tea and we gave her (American) cookies, snacks. Lucas was really excited to be at the orphanage and especially wanted to give out the large suitcase of gifts and candy ( as recommended we bring by our agency)to the children. Jeanne said it best that this was the best time to do it with just us and the children on a quiet Sunday (vs. a work day w/ all staff nearby). When the tutor time was over, the children came downstairs...Lucas opened the suitcase and WOW! was the first expression we heard with big smiles and wide-open eyes. Lucas is so generous. Jeanne and I mainly assisted while he handed out gifts making sure everyone got the right kinds and amounts. Glow sticks, bubbles, silly bands, barrets, jump ropes, coloring books, hot wheels, cool stickers and candy. The candy was devoured and it was fascinating to watch the trading and negotiating. One younger boy ended up with about a 20 glow sticks around his wrists and forearms after trading cars and silly bands.

The children all played with their toys and some sat very close to us pointing to words in a coloring book, or to colors of their toys or counting of them always in English...a way they wanted to further bond with us as well as show how well they're learning. It touched our hearts.

Anna then called the children into the kitchen for their afternoon snack...wonderful bread and jelly with chai. We all sat at the 2 tables together family style. The children kept giving us a piece of their candy or more bread or chai. Afterwards, two of the smallest girls and one boy refused to let us carry our backpacks and suitcase upstairs...they did. Another way of saying "thank you." We are humbled and give all glory to the Lord.
It was time to go. Fours hours had past with more than half of them spent as a family. It was a great Sunday and we thank the Lord for ordering our steps in such a wonderful way.

Saturday, March 19, 2011

2011-03-19T14:05:00.000-07:00

We acted like true city-dwellers today. With a small washing machine, no clothes dryer and white clothes having turned gray and black drying whereever there's room. It was a lazy morning of reading, knitting, more laundry and X-men videos...you can guess who did what...that's right, I, Dave was...knitting! ;-D

Then, lunch and all of us to the park cross the street. Lucas had more than a little energy to burn and did a great job of it at the park. He "skiied" down the slick, metal slide attached to the cement sculpted castle...ran a few laps from the iron and bronzed lion...around the castle and then to the end of the small park and back again...Bravo, Lucas!

We left the park and cut through the grounds of St. Michael's Cathederal. There were a lot of military personnel there. There must have been an event. We also saw a beautiful bride and her groom out front getting pictures taken. From there we headed to the tram ride down to the Dnipro River.

For Lucas, the tram was like an amusement park ride. We were packed in with others and it was a steep hill to the bottom.

Getting out we discovered we were on a main shopping and cafe type of street. Jeanne was giving me the "I'm-cold-can-we-find-a-cafe-for-tea" look. Actually a great idea.

After the cafe, we walked along when suddenly it began to snow. Jeanne had mentioned this at breakfast along with a high for the day of 44. However, everything FEELS 10 degrees colder. When snow started really comin'down...made us kinda homesick ;-D...and then, trammed back up the hill. Amazing how snow can make the city that much more beautiful.

On the tram back, we met a mother and her 8 year old son-Dima. Both could speak English fairly well so Lucas and Dima played a little in the park. I was proud of him b/c he'd been reluctant 'til then to play with any children at the playground...I think he's embarassed of the language difference. They teeter-tottered, climbed and even, shared his handheld game on a nearby bench.

We headed back to the ranch to warm up and decide on dinner...pasta at the Ritzmans. We turned on the gas to the stove w/o being blow'd up. Jeanne got the water goin' and I headed to the market to get a few items including a great bottle of Merlot for only 27 Grivna (that's Kyiv version of Trader Joe's 3 buck chuck but better quality).

So now uncorking the bottle for a glass, Lucas is tucked in bed.

We want you to know your prayers are so important and paying off...keep praying. We have an appointment at 4 PM on Monday with the SDA (again)...the key document is signed and SDA decides if we are permitted (by them to pursue adoption in their country)...I take nothing for granted...I pray and we are glad you do too. God Bless!

Friday, March 18, 2011

2011-03-18T15:50:00.000-07:00

We started the day with this frame of mind: Psalm 100:4 Enter into His gates with Thanksgiving, And into His courts with praise. Be thankful to Him, and bless His name. We recounted the many things we are thankful for today:

A great team of people working for orphaned children in Ukraine.
That Lucas gets to be part of this expeditition.
Internet access for both laptops (finally) and the ability to continue personal and business communication.
Smooth transition for all of us with little or no jet-lag.
Quick settling into lodging and life in a foreign country.
Finding a new routine that encompasses our daily disciplines.
Those that came last year and the insight they shared.
Grace for the challenges of international adoption.
Faith.
The voices in prayer adding their petitions daily.
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That's how the day began and the rest of the day was even more amazing:

A concert at the orphanage.
Official re-naming of Oleksandr Koshevyy.
A high level family meeting entertaining 8 more adoptions.
The impact of new admissions - a sibling group of 3.

If we don't get to all of the these tonight we will in the next few days. The clock striketh midnight and at least one of us needs our beauty sleep.......

Today we were invited to the orphanage for a special production of we-don't-know-what-because-we-don't-understand-Russian. All 25 of the children performed with the help of a teacher and a director - complete with costumes, singing, dancing and narrative.

The purpose of the event was to prepare a fundraising video by the owners of Moscow company. Those 2 plus a management team of 10 came to visit the orphanage, film the video and bless the children with toys and a computer.

The staff of the orphanage were on their top game. The Moscow company owners brought their best contributions. The children were completely themselves - displaying their gifts to act, dance, narrate, support. They were unified in one other goal - to help and encourage each other.

Stay tuned. We have precious video footage and will try to send tomorrow - uploading on this network is taking too long for tonight.......

Thursday, March 17, 2011

2011-03-17T14:45:00.000-07:00

One of the instructions we were given upon arrival in Kiev: Check in with the U.S. Embassy ASAP. We forgot. Imagine our surprise to meet three embassy employees dining at the same restaurant we chose to dine tonight. A coincidence? Well, maybe. It is St. Patrick's Day and we were at one of two "Irish" pubs in Kiev........

Since we still can't go to the orphanage, this is a good chance to cover some of the interesting notes about the city of Kiev and Ukrainian culture in general.

This building is directly across from our building. It looks a lot like ours. You can see the balcony of ours in the foreground (the blue color is clothesline). The ceilings in our apartment are 12 feet high with 10 feet high windows. We have newly tiled bathroom, a kitchen (with no oven - aw, too bad), a living room with a sofa bed and bedroom with a double bed. The location of our apartment is practically in the middle of Kiev.

Housing - With a popluation of 3 million and virtually no suburbs - most people live apartments. In the newer part of the city (the East side of the river) the buildings are high rise or sky scrapers each one gleaming white, pristine and redundant looking except they make landscape striking in appearance. Almost like cities in Asia. On the West side of the river - where most people live - buildings have the european charm and most are older than their counterparts in the U.S.

The National Opera House

Cars - A high majority of cars are brand new. Many luxury models and not one truck or SUV. The city 'buses' are basically extended vans.

Fashion - Clothing: Black, light black, dark black, medium black. A few bright colors in a scarf or sweater and absolutely no brown. Coats: leather all of the time and most have fur trim for men and women. Almost zero layering like the 'boho' look in the states. A few jeans - loose on men, skin tight on women. Short skirts for women, suits with no ties for men. Footwear: boots, booties and more boots mostly with towering or platform heels. Mens shoes are pointy and long. No white tennis shoes anywhere. Hair: straight, straight, straight - short or long.

T. Shevenko University - popular and well attended by Europeans in general.

Food - Russian is prominent and favored. McDonald's is next in popularity. Too poplular as in long lines day and night . It is a hangout for the 20 somethings - every table packed, a meeting place after work. I am guessing it's the only fast food place in Kiev. No Starbucks - Tea is the drink of choice here. Chinese and Italian restaurants are prevelant too but most natives say they don't like either food.

People - Quiet, rarely smiling, very reserved, more passive, rarely laughing. When annoyed or frustrated they will talk faster but not louder. Even with our windows open we do not hear people on the street or even next door. At the orphanage even when the kids play it only gets to be a quiet rowdy.

History - monuments, statues, buildings - too numerous to name - some remembering WWII, others independence from the Soviet Union and still others commemorating its 1400 (6th century) years of existence.

Lucas standing on a graffiti riddled playstructure at the park.

Wednesday, March 16, 2011

2011-03-16T14:27:00.000-07:00

The picture on the left is St. Sophia's Cathedral. It sits on top of the hill behind our apartment ringing light and lovely chimes each hour.

The picture on the right was taken this morning about 5 minutes after we took the first one. Both places are on the walk from our apartment to the adoption center where we had our appointment this morning. We will have the distinct pleasure of seeing this statue again on Monday! Yes, due to the delay in one signature from a local official we have another appointment scheduled at the adoption center. These things happen. We pray, we trust and we make them interesting blog fodder!

Ah, no, those two handsome guys are not the local color! It's Dave and Lucas standing in the foreground of the river Dnipro, a huge waterway that flows from Russia through Ukraine to the Black Sea.
Another big adventure today took us from our apartment to the 'super' market. We have not been in a grocery this huge where every sign, label and price sticker is written not only in another language but another alphabet. A short list took us a good hour.

Add to that LA size traffic and we were gone a total of almost 3 hours for a 7 mile drive. The orphanage driver's name is Sergei and he drove us there and back. He deftly drove the tighest lines, swerving like a ballerina and jumping into u-turns while not one swear word or sound passed his lips. A couple of times we cheered "Sergei aht-pot!" (Sergei super!) He laughed.

And, finally for today - the reason we are we here - he's the one in the middle holding the rabbit:

That's all for now.

Tuesday, March 15, 2011

2011-03-15T14:36:00.000-07:00

Another quick one, alas! It is 11 PM and we have an early meeting at the Adoption Center so we need to sleep! We are excited for this next step in our journey - the first legal steps as far as Ukraine is concerned. We will be with our attorney, Viktor. A warm, gregarious, quick-witted and intelligent man that has a passion for the adoption process.

We spent almost 4 hours at the orphanage today. The drive took about 45 minutes (Kievites drive like New Yorkers!) and we were all pretty quiet feeling kind of like it does when you go to visit someone at the hospital. But when we got there not a all! The reunion with Sasha was electric - as if no time had passed. Now, on his turf, he proudly gave us a tour. The building is well-planned with a warm feel. It sits in the midst of an area that looks very broken compared to parts of Ukraine we have seen so far.

We saw some of the kids from last summer but it was a school day plus they have teachers come in the orphanage for other classes so all the children were very busy. We will be there every day we are told so I am looking forward to seeing and visiting with all the children. Lucas ditched us most of the time to be with Sasha and play with the others. They welcomed him with open arms - a truly delightful group of children. Another adopting family from Conneticut was there. They are adopting their second from Ukraine bringing their total of children to 6 (their oldest biological child is 25).

Thank for prayer and support and encouragement. Love getting the emails, love getting the blog comments. I look forward to a steadier pattern in the next few days so we have more time to write indivdually and collectively. Plus pictures!

Time to go. I want to stay up and write more though! Please pray for the internet situation - Dave's laptop is rejecting the internet connection and that literally effects business. We have battery recharge power now - Igor, the coordinator, had the right adapter - thank you Lord!

Monday, March 14, 2011 Ukraine

2011-03-14T13:37:00.000-07:00

This will be fast - it's 10:30 here and this our first chance to get connected since we packed the laptops yesterday. It's been a whirlwind of travel to be sure. Our biggest concern (?) right now is that none of the adapters we brought to convert the wattage for the laptops will work (our power cords are 3-prong). So, until tomorrow when we get to a computer store we have limited battery.

Highlights:
We get to see Sasha tomorrow!! Lucas burst into Spongebob's "It's the Best Day Ever".
Lucas was a dream traveler and he LOVES this city.
Kiev is beautiful and full of iconic contrasts - it is gorgeous.
The travel was hectic but full of grace.
All 10 of our checked and carry-on bags arrived on time and safely.
We sped through customs and immigration.
This dream is coming true and we all feel it.

Saturday, March 12, 2011

2011-03-12T21:01:00.000-08:00

Trying to think of the top 10 things that are better than packing the night before a traveling......

#10 - vacuuming the house
#9 - doing laundry
#8 - cleaning the garage
#7 - organizing the storage room
#6 - paying bills
#5 - overseeing homework
#4 - picking up other people's dog do-do
#3 - getting the annual medical exam
#2 - cooking
#1 - getting teeth pulled

And if things could better - the clock says: 10:59 PM but DST begins tonight so it's really 11:59!

Friday, March 11, 2011

2011-03-11T19:01:00.000-08:00

One of those mornings.

One of those great mornings.

Lucas sat at the top of the stairs stretching wide to shake off the sleep and said "I had a dream last night that we were getting on the plane to Ukraine!" And then: "How many more Zaftras (tomorrows)?"

After breakfast it was time to call Sasha - 5:00 PM in Ukraine - close to suppertime. After the usual pleasantries he said the adoption coordinator told him we were coming to Ukraine. Sasha said "My go to America and Mommy, Poppi and Lucas my forever family, yes?" Funny how to words like "forever family" can say it all. He proceeded to boast about how he doesn't have to go to school while we are there. The next questions (the ones that occur more than any other): "Me play soccer America? And me sport bike and karate?"

One of those great mornings.

Thursday, March 10, 2011

2011-03-10T20:51:00.000-08:00

In light of many unexpected moments that needed attention today - some in the realm of health for Lucas and Dave - it is fitting to close the day with Psalm 116:17 I will offer to You the sacrifice of Thanksgiving, and will call upon the name of the Lord!

Wednesday, March 9, 2011

2011-03-09T12:59:00.000-08:00

Today's prediction: In approximately 4 days this journal will get considerably more interesting.

A prediction to count on:

The weather forecast for Kiev, Ukraine; Thursday, March 10

                                             High of 36 degrees Fahrenheit
                                             Low of 23 degrees Fahrenheit

The weather forecast for St. Paul, Minnesota; Thursday, March 10

                                              High 35 degrees Fahrenheit
                                              Low 24 degrees Fahrenheit

Tuesday, March 8, 2011

2011-03-08T20:09:00.000-08:00

The newly updated House Sitter Manual is ready for printing.

Now, for someone that actually reads owner's manuals (and is always glad they did) this is an obvious step in preparation for long distance travel. (Not sure how many past house sitters have actually looked in the manual.) Since the house has its own quirks the manual helps to point those out. The dishwasher that runs only the super wash cycle is an example. The bottom up/top down shades are another.

Of course the dog has quirks too. That's why there are 6 pages devoted to Sadie. When the owners of the dog are 8 time zones away it helps the caretaker to be able to read and see that, yes, Sadie may not eat for a full 24 hours. She will indeed live. It's not a ploy to get people food. Well, maybe it is, but that's in the manual too.

The truth is that even if a prospective house sitter said they did not need a manual one would still be created. A potentially well-informed caretaker is better than a potentially uninformed one. Plus, the author of the manual feels better being able to say "I am sorry that happened! Did you read the manual, chapter 4 page 2?"

Monday, March 7, 2011

2011-03-07T13:00:00.000-08:00

There are lots of ways to spell relief. One tried and true way has three main ingredients: flip chart paper, markers and 3M Post-it notes. Coming to terms with the idea that this trip falls in the category of 'missions' versus 'vacation' or 'business' (of course the last two are basically the same thing) has helped to embrace the proper organization and preparation mind-set.

So far there are 4 flip chart pages and one is labeled 'packing list'. That one includes: Documents like the ones needed for international travel and adoption. Gifts for the children at the orphanage like games, and little candies. Food for meals until we learn the area. Food we can't live without once we do like salad dressing and honey nut Cheerios. Clothesline as clothes dryers are not popular. Adapters to be able to use our appliances with their electricity. Schoolwork for Lucas.

Ahhh there are lots of ways to spell relief....

Sunday, March 6, 2011

2011-03-06T17:05:00.000-08:00

Visiting the website for Sasha's orphanage seemed to be just what was needed at this stage: The point of being suspended between America and the Ukraine, holding one child and holding two, the past and the future.

The website has a sweetness about it. Of course the words are Cyrillic alphabet in Russian so it has a foreign feel in more than unfamiliarity. Looking at the pictures of the inside and outside of the facility helps to 'see' Sasha and get a sense of daily life. Figuring it would help Lucas to get a perspective by viewing the pictures he said: "Wow I'm exciteder to go now. I didn't think it would be so rich and fancy and all that stuff!"

Cradle of Children's Hope www.detdom.com.ua is one of few privately funded orphanages in Ukraine: stardream.com.ua. Both sites are in Russian with the Cyrillic alphabet. By copying portions of text and pasting them to the Google Translate website the vision of the foundation could be read in English: To rescue, support and rehabilitate abandon children. It will be a privilege to witness their dedication and then, to continue their mission.

Matt 19:14 but Jesus said, "Let the children come to me, and do not hinder them; for to such belongs the kingdom of heaven."

Saturday, March 5, 2011

2011-03-05T10:46:00.000-08:00

Joy! We talked to Sasha this morning. He was pretty excited to tell us that tonight (it was dinnertime) he is going with some friends to a discotheque. We perked up on that one. Immediate thoughts: Is he sneaking out of the orphanage? What kind of security does Cradle of Children's Hope have anyway? Do they know Ukraine is a center for human trafficking? Calming down enough to ask more questions and putting on the best nonchalant voice (managing tone is crucial with the language barrier) we gaily ask what friends and what adults are going. He names a long list of kids and one adult. Phew! It's then we remember that Jenn said in Korea the favorite thing for kids to do is go to the Karaoke cafes. Does Eastern Europe have dance cafes for kids? Hmmm....another thing to add to the list of must see in Kiev.
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It's not the packing that's stressing for long overseas trips - it's the preparation of home and business. Taking a mental break and thinking of simple things is refreshing. Last night the mental break was: How will things look when we get back from the first travel phase - April 9th? The snow should be gone. The stack of mail (mostly junk) will be huge. The 6 new houses being built in the next sub may be done with families moved in. Daylight hours will have increased - that's right - Daylight Saving Time! Thanks to internet search engines the discovery is that we will experience two DST this year - one in the U.S. on March 13th and one in Ukraine on March 27th. So glad to know this advance - would anyone think to tell us in Kiev? We couldn't tell from watching TV or the radio. What appointment might we have missed? Hey! This is supposed to be a mental break........

Friday, March 4, 2011

2011-03-04T10:08:00.000-08:00

Tomorrow we make our usual weekend call to Sasha at the orphanage. It's always a bit humorous. When the caregiver answers the phone we ask to speak with Sasha (in English since the little Russian or Ukrainian we attempt just exasperates) and they answer in their language and then sometimes just hang up. We assume they have said he is sledding or taking a walk or something but we don't know for sure until the next time we talk with him. The other calls are priceless, however, when the caregiver replies 'da' and the next voice we hear says "Hi Mommy, Hi Poppi, where Lucas?"
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8.5 days until we board the flight to Amsterdam connecting to Ukraine. The days get shorter and the to-do list gets longer! Some big things taken care of yesterday though - we have much relief after meeting the dog care and house sitting team for Sadie. In addition, our couple's bible study will be in good hands with trained host/leaders. Provision like this and so much more creates a kind of awe at the generosity of friends and family. We know where our helps come from - and when he flows that help through people - we experience a whole new wave of thankfulness that words just can't express.
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Ps 121:1 I will lift up my eyes to the hills-From whence comes my help? (2) My help comes from the LORD, Who made heaven and earth.

Thursday, March 3, 2011 (updated)

2011-03-03T08:53:00.000-08:00

Some ramblings for this morning:

Very thankful for a great husband and the teamwork in our marriage. Dave made a motion (out of the blue) that we do whatever it takes to tag-team this next 10 days even in each other's lanes! I wholeheartedly seconded.....
Sasha's request for a name change. Last summer at the meeting where we asked Sasha to join our family he told us he wants to be called Jason. (He saw a singer or rock star with the name he said.) The name means "healer" in Greek.......
2 rooms does not mean 2 bedrooms. Yesterday at the 'big' meeting with the agency we found out our accomodations in Kiev will be a 2-room apartment. We had been hoping that meant 2 bedrooms........
Rolling around in my spirit today: Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever. I Chronicles 16:34

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We don't need a drumroll for this, right? The travel plans will be: Dave, Jeanne, Lucas travel to Kiev, Ukraine Sunday, March 3rd. Beginning Thursday, April 7th the three of us will return to the US. Within ten days (required) only Jeanne will go back to Kiev to finish phase two of the paperwork (14 days for this part) and bring Sasha home. Wow - the bring Sasha home part makes my heart beat a little faster!!

Wednesday, March 2, 2011 (updated)

2011-03-02T06:11:00.000-08:00

The focus of our blog will be to journal the events and experiences of our family over the next few months. Ahh, nice to have a focus!

We will depart for Kiev on Sunday, March 13th. After our meeting today with the agency we will set our airline tickets. The big decision will be how to configure those 7 weeks - do we all stay the whole time or does one stay and one go back and forth? I know someday we will look back and think it all happened so fast! But right now, at this very moment, uncertainty makes us feel like the days drag on.

Last night Lucas said - "Mom, I have so much pressure in my life right now. School (he is in second grade), getting my new brother, leaving my friends and teacher." Hard for us not to laugh and cry at the same time. When we first told him that we got the invitation he jumped up - all excited and said "Yes!" Then he ran to a big overstuffed chair in the living room where he buried his face. When Dave asked him what was going on he explained that Sasha had told him that in the orphanage kids get beat up for tattle-taling. Lucas continues to tell us that he can't wait to see Sasha but he is nervous about the kids in the orphanage part. We reassure him that our job is to protect him and that we will be right there, every step of the way!
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God Bless the directors (Zina and Judy) at our agency in the U.S.! We had a big meeting today to look at the details our trip including offices, embassys and departments that we will deal with in Kiev. Thank goodness we have a coordinator and an attorney in Ukraine to navigate the regulations, language and culture when we get there. Oh - and a driver too!

On the way home from the meeting at the agency we gave ourselves the deadline of Thursday at noon to decide how to configure the travel part. Phase one of the process requires us to stay in Ukraine for 3 1/2 weeks. Then, 10 days later, the second phase requires at least one of us to be in Ukraine for 2 weeks and Sasha comes home at the end of that phase. The 4 options we are considering : A) Dave goes to US, Jeanne and Lucas stay in Ukraine. B) Jeanne and Lucas go to US, Dave stays in Ukraine. C) Dave, Jeanne and Lucas go to US, Dave or Jeanne return to Ukraine. D) We all stay in Ukraine the entire 7 weeks.
Tick, tock, tick, tock...

Tuesday, March 1, 2011

2011-03-01T20:39:00.000-08:00

12 days until we fly to Kiev, Ukraine. Amazing to realize that one year ago we didn't know that Oleksandr (Sasha) Koshevyy existed. That we did not know that our hearts could hold another child. That we did not know about a program for hosting orphans.

12 days until we fly to Kiev. Sasha will be at home with us, God willing, by the end of April. We meet with our U.S. adoption agency tomorrow, Wednesday March 2nd. A timeline will be projected for each step of documentation with Ukraine agencys, welfare offices, the court appearance, embassy filings, and orphanage visitations.

12 days until we fly to Kiev. Dave, Lucas and I going to Sasha's birthplace. We can hardly wait to see, smell, touch and experience the people, the culture, the land that Sasha has called home for 11 years (or in Lucas' words: Sasha's whole life).

12 days until we fly to Kiev. Amazing to realize that one year ago Oleksandr (Sasha) Koshevyy did not know the Ritzman family existed.